"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What would you do?

ColonyConfused

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I met this girl about 2 months ago in a small friendly party in my place. we hanged out, and it went pretty well, we exchanged facebook and we started talking on facebook the day after. the thing was that she would just stop replying for a few days, and then the next time we met, she would say she's so sorry and she will reply, which she does, but again at some point she stops replying.
So, about 2 weeks ago i asked her to go out have some coffee and then come back to my place and play some guitar, she sings very good. she replies with "yeah sure.. that is a good idea, blah blah", then i asked for her number to inform her of the place to meet at the weekend(2 weeks ago), but she didn't reply, and i just forgot about her, because in my opinion it's just an obvious sign that she's not interested. so i just forgot about her and didn't message her and nothing.
But yesterday after 9 days of no communication, she messages me and says that she is so sorry and that she has been so impolite not to reply to my message, and that she has this terrible attitude which she will explain to me this time we meet. and in the end of the message she says that she is sure we can find some time this weekend to go out "with friends" to hang out, notice that i asked only her to go out with me, means only me and her.
The thing is, she is an 8, and she's got a good personality, i like her in many ways, but i can't stand her strange behaviour sometimes.
here are the facts, 1- i have actually forgot about her, she doesn't seem so attractive to me now, but still she can be a very very good catch and i would not have minded a relationship with her. 2- i still havent replied to her message since yesterday morning, 3- i dont know what to reply
What would you reply to her?.. considering that i am not really interested anymore, and i also dont want to be rude. At the same time i would like some small time with her, like a short something, if you know what i mean. and i dont get what she's going to explain to me about her terrible attitude.
So guys, i would appreciate your helps :)
 

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Darth

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I know these kinds of girls- they are a headache right out of the gate.

Trust your gut instinct on this one- if she is annoying you now she would annoy you if you were together. She has blown you off and done it more than once.

Judge her actions as opposed to her words.

Edit: If it were me (and keep in mind you need to do what is natural to you in keeping with your own values), I would say, "I didn't want to go out with your friends, I wanted to go out with you specifically." Then I would see what she said about that.
 

ColonyConfused

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You're right, she's just like that, a headache.

Her actions are pretty good, i mean she shows interest when we are together, and we can connect easily.
So what would you reply to her if you were me Darth?

Edit: i just read your Edit... thanks, thats a good idea!
 

MikeAndIke

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I was in a bit of a similar situation. Most, if not all signs point to disinterest, while sometimes you feel like there is. It's a tricky situation. Darth's response was pretty good. Try that and see what happens. But remember, she might be baiting you.
 
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