"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What would you do?

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Imagine yourself in this situation:

- You have a bachelor degree
- You can't find a permanent job, not even at the lowest level
- You can't pay your rent
- You can't pay your food
- You drink coffee at minimum wage jobs to keep yourself alive
- You are threatened to become homeless
- You have no family or friends to turn to

You are me now...What would you do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why are you drinking coffee at minimum wage jobs to keep yourself alive?
 

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Iceberg said:
Why are you drinking coffee at minimum wage jobs to keep yourself alive?
I have no money to buy food. Every penny I earn goes straight to rent and debt. So I would literally die without the free vending machines at temp work places.
 

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Darko said:
I have no money to buy food. Every penny I earn goes straight to rent and debt. So I would literally die without the free vending machines at temp work places.
Take your degree and expatriate to another country and start over.
 

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Nutz said:
Take your degree and expatriate to another country and start over.
I want to. If I had the money for even just a couple of train tickets I could at least try to find work in other cities. But I have literally no money. Zero. Not even a bike. I walk an hour to work.

Also, If I could just make a little money, I might get a loan. But how do I put the loan to good use and set myself up for life?

Like, law = compete with hundreds of other wannabe lawyers -> more debt and no job

engineering/computer science = get outsourced -> more debt, no job

medicine = same, because after the md there are only a few residencies for a lot of students.

Of course, if I get to ever study again I would make sure to work myself to death and get in a goof university

But so far, It's all guaranteed debt and little chance of a job and I'm not even in America, no offense. Just sayin Europe is dead too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You need a short term plan and a long term plan.

Short term

1. Does your minimum wage job involve food? Talk to your boss and see if you can just deduct meals from your pay. Get a second or even third minimum wage job if you have to.

Long term

You have to think hard, but don't wait too long. Whether it's search for a job out of state or out of the country or even consider the military if you have the health and courage to do so.

But whatever you decide, don't let yourself end up on the street. Once there, your chances of turning your life fall to almost zero.
 

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Mike32ct said:
You need a short term plan and a long term plan.

Short term

1. Does your minimum wage job involve food? Talk to your boss and see if you can just deduct meals from your pay. Get a second or even third minimum wage job if you have to.

Worst case, you might be able to live out of your car for a short time.

Long term

You have to think hard, but don't wait too long. Whether it's search for a job out of state or out of the country or even consider the military if you have the health and courage to do so.

But whatever you decide, don't let yourself end up on the street. Once there, your chances of turning your life fall to almost zero.
Yeah I'm going to get a night job as well tomorrow if I can. Hope some night grocery or fast food store so I can feed myself, good idea.

I don't have a car or a drivers license. I actually wanted to join the military long before, but it takes a year to get accepted and I'm almost 24 now, wich means I'm reaching the age limit. Plus Crohn's, but no flare ups.
 

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Darko said:
I want to. If I had the money for even just a couple of train tickets I could at least try to find work in other cities. But I have literally no money. Zero. Not even a bike. I walk an hour to work.

Also, If I could just make a little money, I might get a loan. But how do I put the loan to good use and set myself up for life?

Like, law = compete with hundreds of other wannabe lawyers -> more debt and no job

engineering/computer science = get outsourced -> more debt, no job

medicine = same, because after the md there are only a few residencies for a lot of students.

Of course, if I get to ever study again I would make sure to work myself to death and get in a goof university

But so far, It's all guaranteed debt and little chance of a job and I'm not even in America, no offense. Just sayin Europe is dead too.
I meant don't pay your bills, save up all that cash, and right before they take your ****, hop a plane and get a job teaching English in a foreign country. If you really want to give the system the finger, take out some loans and max out your credit cards with cash advances.
 

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Nutz said:
I meant don't pay your bills, save up all that cash, and right before they take your ****, hop a plane and get a job teaching English in a foreign country. If you really want to give the system the finger, take out some loans and max out your credit cards with cash advances.
I love your idea, but I don't have the balls. If I can't even hold a job at a grocery store, how would I ever hope to get to teach English as a non-native English speaker?

Besides, I hope to give the system my finger in another way. Like getting a good study, become a banker or lawyer and suck everyone and everything dry.

But to be honest, all I ever hoped to be was the main player in a RPG game.
Go on a journey, travel the world, make a lot of friends, fight many battles, defeat an evil villain. Just me in a happy fantasy world.

That's why I decided to study communications. Thought I would become some sort of Pook, outgoing fun loving guy that gets to visit lots of places and create my own stage.

But reality dictates that you have to have 5 years of experience just to get to update Facebook pages all day long. And I ****ing hate staring at a computer screen.

At first I thought I could study accounting some day or actuarial science, but in a temp job as a low level statistical analyst I got bored to tears. Where's the ****ing excitement in that? How do people even live like that?

But the worst f*cking thing is this: I worked years as a pr-assistant and did all kinds of extra curriculars. But employers don't even want to consider it as 1 minute of experience. Even worse: when I arrive early, take no brake and work late, people try to put me down. So hard work does not = succes or money. Only get taken advantage of and get kicked out again.

F*ck this world. It must be conquered and destroyed.



/rant. Had to get that out of my system. To more productive things: I have lots of study books and some knowledge about SPSS. Is it worth to take the time tonight and set up a blog or something, with some Google Adsense and make some passive income, if only a few dollars. Does it even work like that or does it take years of keyword optimising and begging for incoming links to make it work?

I also signed up for some low risk clinical trials.

Other creative way to generate income?
 

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It's an extreme thing to do for sure, but if you're so bad off and scorched earth is your only way out, well, you might as well do it right.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No one else? What purpose does it have have anyway, if you're only working just so you are alive to work the next day?
 

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I would sell everything I had that was non-essential. Since you have the internet, try craiglist/ebay.

I would use this money to buy a cheap bike for transportation.

Since you have internet access I would search for any other job openings.

---where I work the cooks/bussers/prep/expo people get FREE meals every shift they work, good meals too. So a restaurant would be advisable (high turnover means lots of openings). And once your in and deemed reliable it's hard to get fired, replaced.

I would find the cheapest place in town to move to ASAP. As long as it had a roof over my head, place to shower and sleep.

Once I got my foot down and established myself a little I'd start pursuing jobs hard that pertained to my degree.

I would find a cheap gym to work out at. (YMCA's usually have financial aid memberships).
 

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hey man. i woke up one day and said to myself im tired of living week by week. with all my experience and skill set I should be getting paid hell of a lot more.

So i handed im resignation yesterday and Im outta here next friday.

Do i have a job lined up? oh hell yah i do. Ill be working as a financial adviser for a very successful insurance company.

How did I come to this? i was sick and tired just getting by. you have tons of education and should use it to your advantage.

be creative. dont settle for less.
 

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nono. dont declare brankruptcy. your credit will be f*cked for the next 7 years.

try and hustle more. sell drugs, or a something quick. bartend, go go dance. ok dont become a drug dealer.

handyman, or lawn care something. that piece of paper is holding your ego back. get out want adds. something!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mark1234 said:
I would sell everything I had that was non-essential. Since you have the internet, try craiglist/ebay.

I would use this money to buy a cheap bike for transportation.

Since you have internet access I would search for any other job openings.

---where I work the cooks/bussers/prep/expo people get FREE meals every shift they work, good meals too. So a restaurant would be advisable (high turnover means lots of openings). And once your in and deemed reliable it's hard to get fired, replaced.

I would find the cheapest place in town to move to ASAP. As long as it had a roof over my head, place to shower and sleep.

Once I got my foot down and established myself a little I'd start pursuing jobs hard that pertained to my degree.

I would find a cheap gym to work out at. (YMCA's usually have financial aid memberships).
Thanks. Too bad I have no valuable posessions and I already live in a small chamber of 150 square feet/14 square meter. I pay 400 dollars for that. It's notoriously difficult to find something cheaper. I also sleep with a matress on the floor. I have no television or anything I can sell.


PokerStar said:
hey man. i woke up one day and said to myself im tired of living week by week. with all my experience and skill set I should be getting paid hell of a lot more.

So i handed im resignation yesterday and Im outta here next friday.

Do i have a job lined up? oh hell yah i do. Ill be working as a financial adviser for a very successful insurance company.

How did I come to this? i was sick and tired just getting by. you have tons of education and should use it to your advantage.

be creative. dont settle for less.
I see your point. I need to learn how to sell myself. How do you sell yourself besides the obvious things?

And Danger, I wasn't even planning on all that! My plan was to work hard now, stay single and live as frugal as possible, than retire early. I'm working 1 minimum wage job now and it's about to end because I worked so hard that I finished the work early. I can't find work as a waiter because they ask for years of experience for temporary waiter jobs and special skills like walking with 3 plates and I can't do that.

But DJ's, I also need a future plan! I mean, with a minimum wage job I can't get the experience for something better and I would be stuck in minimum wage jobs forever. So what will be the best investment of my free time? Will start writing some online articles help me with a entry level PR-job?

And maybe you can give advice on using keywords and stuff to generate traffic? On the other hand, a lot of succesful people don't seem to be using them. Is it necessary or the best thing to do at all? Like on LinkedIn and blogspot.
 

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idk, i'd probably find another job. I've never had trouble finding one.
 

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@ Darko

how do you sell yourself? its almost the exact same way you sell yourself to women. CONFIDENCE. practice my friend. and more practice.

Start looking for jobs. start booking those job interviews. not 1 or 3 or 5. im taking double digits here. whether it be for a security guard at a night club or taking phone orders for a product. anything to get your feet wet.

the more and more you go through these interviews the more you will gain confidence from them. and evenutally you will find something you will like.

but the first step is to make that effort. the ball is in your court bro.
 

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apprenticeship

work abroad as an english teacher ( you have a degree that prioritizes you over others) you get free room and board while getting a salary

join the military
 

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You are intellectually poor.

You don't even seem to allow for possibilities.

You need to learn to dream about possible things to come, and the endurance to pay your dues.

Loser is as loser does.

Go out there meet people, learn what people need and are willing to pay for, collect your fee for bringing buyers and sellers together.

It is all about opportunities, where there is people, there are opportunities.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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