"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok boys need help. Girlfriend in another city and is getting constantly hit on by her coworkers, they all want to sleep with her - she just told me on the phone (not in so many words). I can't do too much can I? I'm flying down there to see her for Christmas but I can't tell her to change jobs or go fight the guys. I'm no where big enough to fight anyone.

Another thing: she asked why I like her. I said "personality" (which is 50% true, other 50% is looks). Then I asked her why she liked me. She said "You are innocent." What the H-E-L-L does that mean? I am innocent and I've told her before but why would she like me because of it? I would think that would make her hate me.

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Goldfinger: No Mr. Bond, I expect you to die!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lol no clue what innocent means. don't it take it too literally, and ask her to explain next time

my girlfriend gets hit on like crazy too, at work, online, wherever. last week one of her coworkers, some older dude, gave her a purse for no reason. I told her to ebay it. anyway, yea it's annoying but there's nothing you can do. but if you couldn't trust her she'd just be some girl you're playin and not your girlfriend right?
 
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It sounds like one of those 'neutral' statements they throw out when they're brain isn't functioning at full capacity, I'll try explain.

Because, you gave a 'neutral' statement "personality", so in return she also gave a neutral/safe/generic answer "innocent".

Maybe next time go a bit deeper with specifics, like 'What makes me so innocent? You obviously haven't seen under my bed...blah blah...'

Some chicks dig the whole innocent vibe, just like girls who go for bad guys, big guys, loser AFC guys etc... There's no use getting worked up about her work mates wanting to screw her, my guess is that it will keep on happening throughout her entire life. Just roll with it.
 
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ready123 said:
lol no clue what innocent means. don't it take it too literally, and ask her to explain next time

my girlfriend gets hit on like crazy too, at work, online, wherever. last week one of her coworkers, some older dude, gave her a purse for no reason. I told her to ebay it. anyway, yea it's annoying but there's nothing you can do. but if you couldn't trust her she'd just be some girl you're playin and not your girlfriend right?
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That's right. I don't think she's the type of girl to do that. Allegedlly it takes her a long time to warm up to someone.
 
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thatguyjamalx said:
It sounds like one of those 'neutral' statements they throw out when they're brain isn't functioning at full capacity, I'll try explain.

Because, you gave a 'neutral' statement "personality", so in return she also gave a neutral/safe/generic answer "innocent".

Maybe next time go a bit deeper with specifics, like 'What makes me so innocent? You obviously haven't seen under my bed...blah blah...'

Some chicks dig the whole innocent vibe, just like girls who go for bad guys, big guys, loser AFC guys etc... There's no use getting worked up about her work mates wanting to screw her, my guess is that it will keep on happening throughout her entire life. Just roll with it.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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