"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well i just started technical college and at my campus there are alot of hot ladies who just pass by in the halls and outside. I'm pretty shy and fear just walking up to someone and embarrassing myself.I dont really understand how to approach someone who is walkin by you. how would you appoach some random hottie?

I also have a couple classes with some hotties but they are at another table. how would you go about approaching these situations.

Do you have any tips or ways that you do things that you could share?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So why do you think you have a fear of approaching complete strangers?


I bet you are able to go to a car dealership, walk in, find a sit, and sit down. Observe how in no time you will be approached by someone. Observe your emotions. That hottie's emotions as she gets approached aren't much different.

You have a set of believes that aren't working for you. You can change those with practice.

You're lacking skills to approach women. You can acquire those skills by reading material and then practicing.


DJ Bible.

www.sosuave.com

Mystery method, there is a book. Watch VH1 at 9 EST on Mondays.

David Deangelo has 6 VSHs or a DVD, it will help you out tremendously.


Get material, free, or paid, study it, and then apply it. Give it time. You will learn more and get more skills and change more limiting beliefs as you apply it more and more.



You already might have some skill that will help to propel you on your journey. Such as if you know how to get things off the internet for free. Then the only thing you need to know is name of author or name of material and you can search for it.
 

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'm pretty shy and fear just walking up to someone and embarrassing myself.I dont really understand how to approach someone who is walkin by you. how would you approach some random hottie?
That's because you usually don't just walk up to someone "out of the blue," so to speak.

There's a sequence of events that almost always holds. With a bit of experience you'll get a sense of it.

Start by smiling at a gal first if she catches your eye. If she smiles back the approach has been "warmed up," and if she's not on her way to her next class or in some other circumstances when the "flow" is not right, it could be a good time to engage her.

On the other hand, she might be shy, and look away, but that doesn't mean she's disinterested. If she looks away reflexively, and looks back, she may be shy, but attracted. Even if you don't approach, smile at her the next time you see her, unless she gives you a blank or cold look. Those are the ones who are disinterested.

Remember, a "devil may care" attitude is sexy.

Eventually you'll get a sense of when and when not to approach. Practice make less imperfect.

That's the best I can put it right now. There is no "standard set of instructions."
 
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