"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Faca

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I know that this happend to you guys also.

Gone out with this girl once, everything went good. Didn't acted AFC, gone for the kiss close.. said that i would call her. Called her the next day just to chat, (maybe first mistake).. and she said she would have free time about a couple of days. Didn't acted into that, said that i would see, and let her know when i could..

So i called her 3 days later, to set up a date, but she didn't answered.. that same day called her again, and same thing. After that i haven't contacted her anymore. She didn't called me back anymore, and it's been 3/4 days now.

I'm really into this girl, and want to try to make this one work..

Does this mean that i have been dumped or does she want me to chase her or something ?..

I'm planning to date other girls this week, not going to wait for her till she decides what she wants!

What would you do if you were really into this one girl in this situation ???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You went out once, you kiss, you tell her you'll call her, you call her the next day just to chat. That's AFC behavior, plain and simple. She knows she has you on silver plate. There's no mystery, no anticipation, no excitement, nothing.

I don't like the fact you're "really into this one girl" after one date. And I think she sensed it underneath, although you say you didn't act AFC. The moment she knows you're really into her, she'll start play games.

Tell me, how do you know her? Does she live close by? Do you know where she hangs out?
 

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Sounds to me like she is flaking. looks grim for you.

Calling next day.....tut tut...

Send her a text saying you tried giving her a ring. Tell her to give you a call when she is free then leave it....if she doesnt call back within 2 days. Delete the number.

Simple
 

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What would you do if you were really into this one girl in this situation ???
Never be INTO girls and hence never get into such a situation... Career, Sport, Hobbies yes!!! but girls... NO!!

What would you do??? Nothing!!! just go on as if this little oneitis never happened...
 

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MacDiddy said:
Never be INTO girls and hence never get into such a situation... Career, Sport, Hobbies yes!!! but girls... NO!!

What would you do??? Nothing!!! just go on as if this little oneitis never happened...
But you can't deny your emotions, you just have to realize that it's a part of you for now.. till im over her.

Acting as something didn't happen, won't take the time back..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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