"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What would you do in this situation?

BlahUgh

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Lets say you're studying in the school library (uni) which is basically a spot where there are rows and rows of small booth/desks, and as you're walking up your seat which is directly behind another desk where a girl is sitting at. When sat down backs would be turned to each other though. Anyways as you approach you make eye contact with the girl, but its nothing special since she just looked up at you as you approached. So you do some work for awhile and then a little while later you notice the girl get up and leave, which makes you think shes done or whatever. What would you then do if she came back and it looked as if she had put on a lot of lipstick? I noticed her lips were really red, but I wasn't sure if she had just put them on since I only saw her face from the side before(but since it seemed kinda excessive I figured I would have seen it, but not sure). Is this sort of thing a girl would do if they were interested? And assuming you thought so, how would you initiate a convo without knowing whether or not she just wanted to study? Btw she left like 10 mins later or something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FunkyMillion

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BlahUgh,

You should be ashamed of yourself. . . . . whenever you see a girl that interests you, the best thing to do is aproach so you don't have to ask these type of questions.

don't think about it, just approach.
 

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Originally posted by BlahUgh
Lets say you're studying in the school library (uni) which is basically a spot where there are rows and rows of small booth/desks, and as you're walking up your seat which is directly behind another desk where a girl is sitting at. When sat down backs would be turned to each other though. Anyways as you approach you make eye contact with the girl, but its nothing special since she just looked up at you as you approached. So you do some work for awhile and then a little while later you notice the girl get up and leave, which makes you think shes done or whatever. What would you then do if she came back and it looked as if she had put on a lot of lipstick? I noticed her lips were really red, but I wasn't sure if she had just put them on since I only saw her face from the side before(but since it seemed kinda excessive I figured I would have seen it, but not sure). Is this sort of thing a girl would do if they were interested? And assuming you thought so, how would you initiate a convo without knowing whether or not she just wanted to study? Btw she left like 10 mins later or something.

Well, don't kick yourself too hard, because from what you've written, there's absolutely no indication that she was interested in you. (I HIGHLY DOUBT she put on lipstick to try to get your attention.) So it's not like you passed up a great and rare chance or anything like that.

Next time, if there were eye contact and at least a smile on her part, then you could go over and ask what she was studying.
 

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here's whats wrong with your thinking...

Who cares if she's attracted to your looks? Really...who? You're on this board to get your game up and if you choose not to play, just because you don't think she's interested, based on 1 look, then you've already lost.

Don't even count IOI's before you've started talking with them/ kicking your game to them.

PS, if you would have walked over to her and chatted her up, you would know what her interest level was..

hope this helps
 
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