Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What would you do in this situation?

Soprano76

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Hi guys, I am Javier, from Madrid-Spain. It's been two years that I was enlightened by the 'alpha male discovery'. I am doing quite well, actually, as I wasn't a real beta, either.

My sticking points, now that I can work and command a room sometimes, is dealing with those males who are annoyed by my status and try to challenge me verbally, especially in front of women. For example, yesterday we had a meeting at work, all men but a woman, my boss (she's hot, by the way). At some point, I commented to a colleague in front of me that I was planning to travel to Dublin with some friends of mine; my boss heard this and said: "Oh you go to Dublin? you're gonna like it. You must visit 'this and that'”. I said, 'our hotel is well located, right in downtown, we'll work from there', and out of the blue, another colleague, upset with me being the center of attention said: 'Javier, we don't care'. I didn't react at all and we all changed subject. However, I had to make a colossal effort to remain calm and not beat him when the meeting was over.

I need your help here: What would you do should you be in the same situation?

1-Unreactive (what I did)
2-Say a funny remark to him (wit not always available)
3-Call him out in front of everybody
4-Wait for him outside and beat the crap out of him (I am fit and strong, and know some boxing)
5-Others
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You are hardly alpha at all, a guy saying "we dont care" made you angry and want to beat him up, you are a loser man, if you let someone get you angry with such a simple remark you are very far from being alpha.
 

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GettinLuckyAintLuck said:
You are hardly alpha at all, a guy saying "we dont care" made you angry and want to beat him up, you are a loser man, if you let someone get you angry with such a simple remark you are very far from being alpha.
Due to the context, that 'I don't care' sounded like an insult, and everybody perceived it that way (nobody laughed and they all waited for my reaction). Alpha or not, it is not easy to remain unreactive when someone tries to shame you in front of other people, I understand from your words that you would have done NOTHING.
 
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There's a difference between doing nothing, and stressing about something to the point where you had to make this thread. If you were a real tough guy, and he insulted you that much you would have said something in the moment. What you're doing now is what women do........
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reckoning

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Some mates you got there.
 
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