“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What would you do in this situation?

Fitch

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I see two hot girls walking along the beach - on the boardwalk. They were HB 8; very intimidating, I must add...

They were at least two yards ahead of me. I let them get away...

What should I have done?

Me: Hey, I couldn't help notice you guys... what's your name?
**start walking with them?**
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Were you walking behind them? If so...

Ladies, excuse me. I couldn't help but notice that you and your friend were checking me out. (Keep it in a joking tone)

Let the conversation flow from there. Yes, this is sort of a line, but with no previous eye contact, makes an approach difficult.

Or you could've passed them up, acting like a jogger, and as you pass them, turn and check them out a little, give a smile, keep jogging on ahead. Stop somewhere and as they get close enough, then start a conversation.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
Were you walking behind them? If so...

Ladies, excuse me. I couldn't help but notice that you and your friend were checking me out. (Keep it in a joking tone)

Let the conversation flow from there. Yes, this is sort of a line, but with no previous eye contact, makes an approach difficult.

Or you could've passed them up, acting like a jogger, and as you pass them, turn and check them out a little, give a smile, keep jogging on ahead. Stop somewhere and as they get close enough, then start a conversation.
What do I do if a girl responds coldly to me? How do I handle situations in which I get owned? If I can overcome that fear, I will be unstoppable; successful, perhaps not, but unstoppable. :)

How can I play it off if those girls respond with an attitude, like "me checking you out? pfft...."

Me: "Ladies, you don't have to play hard-to-get... it's annoying!" *smile*
*walk away*

???

How do i Deal with the rejection?
 

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"I saw your friend checking me out"
Haha, yeah right, you!?
"I saw those looks she gave me! You have a dirty dirty mind you know!"

Have fun with it, who cares if she rejects you, it means you can throw anything at her then :p
 

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Yeah, with chicks you don't know on a cold approach like that, it's best to have a little bit of a "fvck it"/balls out attitude.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I couldn't help but notice you were checking me out!"
"haha, right, you?"
"its ok, hopefully one day you'll have enough confidence to admit to it. Until then, bye."

hows this sound?
 

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If she shuts you down with something liek the "Yah right, you?" line mentioned above. just use some C&F.

"Well yes me, I couldnt possibly imagine her looking at anybody else besides yours truly"

if she acts hardcore biatch, no biggie. find another babe with less of an attitude.
 

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It seems like I need to work on the "I don't give a Fcuk attitude." - a mentality, rather. You know... the one in which I do not feel the pressure of trying to impress. The state of mind when I am genuine; flirting, and have a conversation for the hell of it - I don't need Your *****, attitude. I just need to exude the mentality that I just want to have a good time; that's all. If your not interested, "later..."

Anyone willing to give me a pep talk, or some motivational piece of wisdom to inspire this sudden change? Perhaps, something that I could bear in my mind when doing these approaches? Something that I could use as my foundation to develop a nonchalant attitude.

I do not want to be a jerk; I do not want to be a push-over. I want to be a genuine guy - charming, funny, conversational, and pleasure to be around; without the slightest thought of wondering what these ladies think of me! I want to come off as a likable guy who doesn't seem to be a player, out for @ss.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fitch said:
I do not want to be a jerk; I do not want to be a push-over. I want to be a genuine guy - charming, funny, conversational, and pleasure to be around; without the slightest thought of wondering what these ladies think of me! I want to come off as a likable guy who doesn't seem to be a player, out for @ss.
thats about my mindset lately, i've perfected it (unfortunately ive been sick and in rehab so not much use yet) but you have to keep the sexual tension, using the double entendres and occasionally accusing them of being perverted.

hit upon a james bond type of character with a little bit more boyish charm in there.
 

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man are u even a master DJ? asking a Newb DJ question like this??
go read the hall of fame.
 

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Zerotwoonenine said:
man are u even a master DJ? asking a Newb DJ question like this??
go read the hall of fame.
rhetorical questions like these should be asked more often, they give us a good shot to develop what kinda additude we should have in situations like these and give us a second to think about answers
 

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Fitch said:
It seems like I need to work on the "I don't give a Fcuk attitude." - a mentality, rather. You know... the one in which I do not feel the pressure of trying to impress. The state of mind when I am genuine; flirting, and have a conversation for the hell of it - I don't need Your *****, attitude. I just need to exude the mentality that I just want to have a good time; that's all. If your not interested, "later..."

Anyone willing to give me a pep talk, or some motivational piece of wisdom to inspire this sudden change? Perhaps, something that I could bear in my mind when doing these approaches? Something that I could use as my foundation to develop a nonchalant attitude.

I do not want to be a jerk; I do not want to be a push-over. I want to be a genuine guy - charming, funny, conversational, and pleasure to be around; without the slightest thought of wondering what these ladies think of me! I want to come off as a likable guy who doesn't seem to be a player, out for @ss.
Any suggestions to develop this personality?
 
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