"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What would you do if you were me?

ChenCristos

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I'm pissed!!
I break up with my ex about a month ago- then we start hanging out again and actually more often than we used to- she had problems with some scam so I help her as much as a I can- anyways we spend a very nice even romantic night out for July 4rth yesterday and we talk about my cellphone (it died) and I need to get a new one and I asked her for help getting it since Im stuck in the office all day and they are damn expensive ($200 for a piece of trash samsung) anyways we agree to go out and get the phone tomorrow and I tell her to write me an email or IM me online to finalize things (the b1tch never logged on) Ieven called her from a payphone (got the Voicemail) and told her I'd be online waiting for her...the b1tch still hasnt come online!! I mean what the fvck I'm not even trying to DJ here- I needed her help and the ho is nowhere to be found- FVCK THIS
What would you do if you were me? I cant dump her cause we broke up I just needed help with a fvcking problem!!! ARGHHH! Now my ex ex ex gf is going to ship a new celly for me from 5000 miles away cause its cheap- I mean FVCK !! my triple ex there moved 5000 miles away and shes helping me out more!! fvck!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If I were you, I'd stop hanging out with my exes. They aren't responsible to help you, so don't depend on them as if they are your girlfriends. That era is over. Move on.
 

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Why do you feel that you need an ex gf to help you with this problem. I think your still emotianly attached to this girl and she can see it so shes backing off so she doesnt hurt you.

Fix your own problems shes your ex for a reason. Man its simple shes your ex forget about her and move on no romantic dinners none of that s**t.

P.S you should never have called her from that payphone after you already agreed to go out the next day.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ok we broke up but had a talk about being together we actually do more now physically and everything else than before so technically we are another category of which I have no idea what to call us... shes not a true ex...we are good friends now basically so approach from that mindset-
As for agreeing to go out- we didnt actually make plans to- I just want a celly- the payphone thing was cause I dont remember my friends phone #'s (big list) and I need it asap
Ive already taken care of it though-my ex ex ex ( ok we never really broke up - she just moved away after college (im closest with her) is taking care of it now- at this moment she is at work talking to a shipping company in Thailand.)
 

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Originally posted by darth yoda
If I were you, I'd stop hanging out with my exes. They aren't responsible to help you, so don't depend on them as if they are your girlfriends. That era is over. Move on.
Amen to that
When you hang out with an ex you're just asking for trouble. The only ex I hang out with who's a girl is my ex room mate and even that's pretty rare. Regardless of what they say, things will be different after you and your other break up. Especially in this case, since you broke up with her and still hang out, you've got to think she doesn't respect you all that much. Why even bother hanging out with an ex anyway? There are tons of other girls out there who are just iching for your time and want your company, so why spend time on treded ground? Get out there and liven things up a bit, you're only young once.
 

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Originally posted by ChenCristos
ok we broke up but had a talk about being together we actually do more now physically and everything else than before so technically we are another category of which I have no idea what to call us... shes not a true ex...we are good friends now basically so approach from that mindset-
As for agreeing to go out- we didnt actually make plans to- I just want a celly- the payphone thing was cause I dont remember my friends phone #'s (big list) and I need it asap
Ive already taken care of it though-my ex ex ex ( ok we never really broke up - she just moved away after college (im closest with her) is taking care of it now- at this moment she is at work talking to a shipping company in Thailand.)
Drama ALERT. Drama Alert.

Man, this is more complicated than your bf gf relationship. If I have only one piece of advice for all you playahs out there is DUMP the DRAMA and simplify.

regards

Mike
 

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Originally posted by ChenCristos
I'm pissed!!
I break up with my ex about a month ago- then we start hanging out again and actually more often than we used to- she had problems with some scam so I help her as much as a I can- anyways we spend a very nice even romantic night out for July 4rth yesterday and we talk about my cellphone (it died) and I need to get a new one and I asked her for help getting it since Im stuck in the office all day and they are damn expensive ($200 for a piece of trash samsung) anyways we agree to go out and get the phone tomorrow and I tell her to write me an email or IM me online to finalize things (the b1tch never logged on) Ieven called her from a payphone (got the Voicemail) and told her I'd be online waiting for her...the b1tch still hasnt come online!! I mean what the fvck I'm not even trying to DJ here- I needed her help and the ho is nowhere to be found- FVCK THIS
What would you do if you were me? I cant dump her cause we broke up I just needed help with a fvcking problem!!! ARGHHH! Now my ex ex ex gf is going to ship a new celly for me from 5000 miles away cause its cheap- I mean FVCK !! my triple ex there moved 5000 miles away and shes helping me out more!! fvck!
Stop being her b!tch.
 

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Re: Re: What would you do if you were me?

Originally posted by squirrels
Stop being her b!tch.
YES!

I swear I only got half way through your post and I was asking myself who the female was in all of this.

Grow some balls and be a man. Take care of your shyt alone.
You yourself are saying that your 3rd EX is helping you still? Get off her tits man!

Funk out...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

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