"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What would you do if you we're 20 again?

rapsta

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Do you regret anything from your twenties? Do you regret that you didn't do this and that? What would you change if you got to be 20 again? I'm just curious :) I wanna know how the more mature people reflect on this..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NewMan

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Nothing.

Regret the things you've done - nopt the things you didn't.

As one door closes, another opens.
 

bobbob

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Don't post crap like this, and don't live in the past ... EVERYONE ON THE PLANET WISHES THEY COULD GO BACK IN TIME WITH THE KNOWLEDGE THEY HAVE NOW.

No one has ever accomplished this though, so why bother thinking about it.

peace
 

Donald Kaufman

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He is 20 and wants to try to take advantage of perspective. You know that crap that women have written all over their houses about "dance like no one is watching, **** like you were attracted to the person you are ****ing" I don't remember it exactly. But do that.

People will tell children they can be anything they want to be. That's a lie. However, failure is a learning experience. Pick a few things you want to try and try them. Even if they seem kind of stupid. For a while I was an awful actor. I really sucked. When I see some of the things I did i cringe,

but,

I made so many connections and friends and learned things I apply to so many aspects of my life now I cannot regret it.

I just wish they would stop playing some of them.:D
 

bobbob

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Ooh, my bad, I didn't notice that you were 20!

I don't think anyone here can answer that for you, since what is important to everyone is different.

There's a thread in the DJ Bible about a mental excercise where you imagine yourself being very old, near death. Then imagine, now that you're very old, you look back on your life and think of all the things you wish you could have done. That way, you'll realize what's important to you. Try doing that mental excercise. Good luck
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being 20 again? I would definitly not spend half of my spare time in front of a computer screen again. Wait, I'm still doing this at 26 AARGH
 

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Re: Re: What would you do if you we're 20 again?

Originally posted by Stormbringer
I regret not going to college right after high school (18) and into my early twenties. I didn't start until I was 27.
Amen brother.

The funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done.

I wouldn't change a thing I did because all of it, good and bad, amounted to who I am today and I like who I am now better than who I was in my 20's. However, if you're looking for advice from your seniors - and I commend you for doing so, not many do these days - I'd tell you to always put yourself first. I like the term 'Enlightened Self-Interest', help yourself in order to best help others. Get in touch with your inner A-Hole, being an enlightened assshole will get you out of trouble far more times than it will get you into trouble. Focus on your own success and ambition rather than others. That may sound selfish and narcissistic, but only from a certain point of veiw.
 

So Many Ways

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The only thing I regret was not making more of an effort to get good with women but then again, if I had, then maybe I would have ended up in a bad relationship or something and maybe I wouldn't have found the valuable online resources in this area. I guess I just came full circle with this paragraph.

I guess when it comes down to it, I don't regret a damn thing. I'm happy and I feel good about my life right now.
 

dietzcoi

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GOt married too early and to the wrong person.

Don't be in a rush to get married or get mature too fast. Enjoy your 20s and do NOT take on too much responsibility too early. Enjoy the freedom while you can!

Rollo is right, you have to put yourself first, otherwise it is easy to let others dictate your life or walk all over you. But that is what being a DJ is all about!

Become a DJ now.. if you spend your 20s as an AFC, nothing good will come of it.

Dietzcoi
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I would probably do some things and not do some other stupid things but i'm sure everyone would do something different whether it be age 20 or 50 or whatever. The past is the past there's nothing you can do about so i'm not going to really think about it but i will think about the future. :cool:
 

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1) id have found Fast Seduction 101
2) i wish David Deangelo was around
3) i wish i would've found this site 5 years earlier than i did.
4) i wish i could've been an experienced person in the game by age 20.
 
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