What would a true DJ do

[jeffthechef]

Sorry, if i'm the complete opposite of a DJ, i found this site two days ago.
Here it is...
She's been with this guy for three weeks. She's a 10. I know this because i've liked her for a year. Normally, i'm not attracted to a girl anymore after a month unless something happens.
We've talked before..a year ago..she's touched me on the shoulder before..all the signs of interest are there.
I sent an email asking for her number/aim before discovering DJ, which i might add is a profound and wonderful site.
I have been reading many threads/posts on this site and i am stuck.
One of two choices. Assuming i get a positive response, which i am pretty sure i will because i am 98% sure she's interested in me. I was merely too much of a "nice guy" too react to all her flirting and signs of interest. I truly believe if i had found DJ earlier, she would be mine right now.

Either I...
1. Talk to her and try to become close friends until she's single.
OR
2. Talk to her, Use DJ methods like being direct etc., and as a result, Become irresistible. And suddenly become a mystery, a challenge. I'll begin to have less time for her, i'll be busy with other things, hopefully she'll wonder what happened to the connection we had earlier.

The thing i'm thinking is..if i do number 1 she'll only think of me as that emotional tampon whenever her bf and her have problems. and when it ends...i'll merely be a good friend/brother.
But number 2...By becoming a mystery/challenge, she might forget about me completely.

Maybe both options are wrong. Any advice? PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME!

 

[SinJester]

You can't do number one if you want her, it wont work.

You are new so you are overanalysing things. Just because she touched you on the shoulder doesn't mean she is interested. She has a boyfriend, that normally isn't an IOI

DEFINATELY do number 2. You should do it naturally rather than it being tactics, but that's something you can work towards. So stick to number 2 and get back to us how it goes.

 

[WC2]

You're not going to get close to this chick's insides unless you pursue your life. You've known this girl for a year and you're still fantasizing over her? That my friend is called an obsession. Obsessions are bad for you.. shake it off.

The basis of being a DJ isn't playing hard to get or being mysterious, etc. The basis of being a DJ is living your life to the fullest and NATURALLY attracting women because you wreak of success. Games are played by men who just dream of being able to attract women. Every once in awhile they will get lucky, but they live their life in complete disarray just focusing on women. Real men don't have women on their agendas. They don't have time for them, most the time. And this is why women will always flock to them. They want what they cannot have.

So if you're going to play any game with this woman, play the game of life. Be the best you can, shoot for your goals and aspirations, and leave her as an afterthought. If you're truly doing this, you'll find that she is really not so special.