what went wrong?

[wvpimp00]

I messed up or something...

Last night I went on a first date with a girl i havent known for a real long time, shes very attractive and sweet..
she calls me and everyonce in a while shows up where i work..

last night we went to see a movie-- lord of rings(3 hours long--eerrrrr).. her friends had told me stuff about her.. like she was a really sweet and shy girl.. and to be honest, im not really shy just a little quiet..

we drove up to the theatre and all was fine, we were having conversations but we switched plans and decided to go to a differnt theatre that is much nicer and thjis choice mad us an hour early so we walked around wal-mart while we waited for that hour to pass..

. we went into the movies and sat down and continued BSing and then the movie started and we talked a little bit during the movie off and on* and this movie lasted forever(lasted from 8to11:30) and in the movie i noticed her actions..
like i was all relaxed back and just watching the movie and she was also just relaxing next to me but after like 2 hours and being in that movie i noticed her sorta movign away from me and setting up straight..

and this went on and off for like more than an hour.. then finally that midget guy got on the hsip and left..
and i drove her home and on teh ride home she was really quiet, i tried to keep the small talk going but honestly she didnt have much to say.. we arrived at her house and while i was saying good night to her she wasnt looking at me, she was looking liek across the street so we said good night and she said she woudl call me and gave me a huge..

well its the next day and i havent heard a peep from her, one of her frineds came ot where i work and asked me how it went but i was to busy and coudlnt talk...
what happend? what should have i changed?

it was almost like she was to intimadated to talk to me sometimes, she told everyone hwo hot i was..etc..
and then again sometimes while we were out she woudl walk ahead of me... what do you guys think happend?
i tried..

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by wvpimp00
I messed up or something...

Last night I went on a first date with a girl i havent known for a real long time, shes very attractive and sweet..
she calls me and everyonce in a while shows up where i work..

last night we went to see a movie-- lord of rings(3 hours long--eerrrrr).. her friends had told me stuff about her.. like she was a really sweet and shy girl.. and to be honest, im not really shy just a little quiet..

we drove up to the theatre and all was fine, we were having conversations but we switched plans and decided to go to a differnt theatre that is much nicer and thjis choice mad us an hour early so we walked around wal-mart while we waited for that hour to pass..

. we went into the movies and sat down and continued BSing and then the movie started and we talked a little bit during the movie off and on* and this movie lasted forever(lasted from 8to11:30) and in the movie i noticed her actions..
like i was all relaxed back and just watching the movie and she was also just relaxing next to me but after like 2 hours and being in that movie i noticed her sorta movign away from me and setting up straight..

and this went on and off for like more than an hour.. then finally that midget guy got on the hsip and left..
and i drove her home and on teh ride home she was really quiet, i tried to keep the small talk going but honestly she didnt have much to say.. we arrived at her house and while i was saying good night to her she wasnt looking at me, she was looking liek across the street so we said good night and she said she woudl call me and gave me a huge..

well its the next day and i havent heard a peep from her, one of her frineds came ot where i work and asked me how it went but i was to busy and coudlnt talk...
what happend? what should have i changed?

it was almost like she was to intimadated to talk to me sometimes, she told everyone hwo hot i was..etc..
and then again sometimes while we were out she woudl walk ahead of me... what do you guys think happend?
i tried..

You didn't make a move, it lost alot of her intrest level, she felt nervous being around you because she didn't know how to act after you being so chumpy and just sitting there Friend did the same thing with a girl he could of had in seconds. I told him he was a retard, and he said he knew. Lol. End of story

 

[wvpimp00]

what are the chances i do get a second chance?
because right nwo i dunnno... for like the last 2 weeks she has usually called me by like 8 and it a lot later than that.. i wish i woudl have made a move.. i always mess up when i dont make a move..eerrr.. thats how i lose them all....

in a way i think i will hear from this girl, plus her mom knows me and likes me so she'll track me down and telll me whats up*
i dunno what to think...

eerrr i get so confused..

 

[wvpimp00]

im sory but this post prolly sounds sorta stupid but i was cheated on by my g/f like 6 months ago and i am still very weiry.. thats why i am so cautious..

 

[Grey Fox]

Hey its a first date, they are not meant to be perfect. Thats what the second date is for. Call her up thank her for a good time, and say that it was cool you two could be so chill, but say you want to do something exciting. Take her out for dinner and dancing...can't beat it. And I don't mean ballroom dancing or waltzing I'm talking like salsa or tango, girls love it. Make a move on her and if there is a live band playing, slip the miestro a 10 and ask for two slow songs during the middle of the dancing. Don't worry about flailing, just throw caution to the wind a make a play.

-Grey Fox

 

[Omega]

You'll get a second chance if you play your cards right. Call her up (*67 though), and try to arrange. If she doesnt set one up on that phone call you don't. However if she does, then obviously you do. If she asks why you *67'd, ask HER why, then when she replies (if she does), just say "Dunno, I guess were unregistered or something?"

 

[Zossima]

I think your big mistake was taking her to a 3 hour movie on a first date. You left no room for conversation, playful flirting, kino and raising her IL. Basically, those 3 hrs actually moved you backwards and lowered her IL.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Originally posted by Zossima
I think your big mistake was taking her to a 3 hour movie on a first date. You left no room for conversation, playful flirting, kino and raising her IL. Basically, those 3 hrs actually moved you backwards and lowered her IL.

I completely agree. Why not going to the bowl? It´s fun and light. Go just to take coffee for some minutes. Do something light that does not require too much time and money, but makes you interact with her. Go to dance if you can do it well.

I just don´t like the movies and the restaurants for dates...

 

[wvpimp00]

i dont think i will ever go on another date to the movies.. NOPE never will... at least not a first date..

she called me twice last night.. but i was tired and i had to go to work at 5am so i told my mom to tell her i wasnt home...
i may call her tonight if she doesnt call me by a certain time..
just to talk and see whats happening, if she seems not as interested then im prolly just going to back off from her and go my own route...

but in some ways i figure she really likes me, but her shyness is really getting in the way.. everyone told me she was sorta shy!
thanks a lot for the advice.. i just post this stuff because im sort of afriad of being let down/cheated on again.. hurt the first time and i dont want a second time..

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Only gone to the movies on a date one single time(LOTR1), ended at her place, was a very comfortable night with a very very sexual morning =) She said nothing would happen, I woke up by feeling her hand rubbing over my boxers....


Anyways, moviedates are stupid, atleast as first dates... First dates should be about adventures, exploration, learning about eachother, touching her buttons.... They should preferably be solely about you two!

 

[wvpimp00]

yeah your right....

well i didnt even call this girl today, she called me first.. and to be honest we talked longer today than we prolly ever have, but i tried to keep it short and sweet..

she was really talkative and was willing to pull a convo out of anything.. and in a round about way she told me she really liked me and was hoping we could go out more..

maybe i didnt mess up, but she did admit that the movie was way to long.. she said a shorter one woudl have been a little funner..
but she said she had a good time just talking and spending the night with me..
but i ended it after like 30 minutes saying i would try to call her later to make a date for tuesday so we can hang out....

Thanks for the advice guys.. i appreciate it...