What we want....

[S.U.R.F.]

I feel that theres a point in a man's life, he needs to sit down and look into why he wants what he wants.

I love sosuave, it truly is a wonderful source of information. But I feel that perhaps many people here don't understand the point of it.

Its important to look into WHY you want what you want. I feel that perhaps, there are many people like me, who have been desperate for female attention in the past. I think its more important to know and look into WHY we feel that way, instead of "fixing" ourselves with DJ or PUA techniques.

Often (in my case, so I'll generalize for other people), it turns out that we're NOT OK with ourselves. So we are desperate to seek attention to people, women, whom we think are "OK", to fix us. Of course, many women is just a temporary solution.

I think, ACCEPTING OURSELVES is the final answer to the problems we post on sosuave.

Best of luck, surfie

 

[chiyeung]

Your answer is obvious. Any PUA, Don Juan or Alpha/ naturals who don't know this are fail. It is your inner game that attracts women. One must love one's self and cultivate themselves further. You need to be confident and believe in yourself. Women will see that. A man who lives his life, fulfilling his own dreams and investing time into success is attractive to women. A man who shows the world that he is capable, and doesn't need a lady to survive, is attractive. A man with interest is attractive.

 

[runner83]

I think, ACCEPTING OURSELVES is the final answer to the problems we post on sosuave.

Best of luck, surfie

Accepting yourselves as you are at the core yes, while also focusing on improving in every way you can.

But if you forget the self improvement part, this is the WORST THING YOU CAN SAY TO YOURSELF.

For example, a chubby nerd with acne who spends all days playing games on computers while living with his parents until he is 30 could learn to accept himself.

He could convince himself that he is a great person and that his problems with women (and life) are due to outside forces which he can't control.

But this would just be another version of "Just be Yourself" and mental masturbation of the worst order.

Instead, man up and accept instead that you can and will change for the better, not for anyone, but for yourself.