What was the biggest shift in YOUR life after becoming a DJ? Share it here.

[Masculinity]

I think sometimes we focus too much on the negative and what we don't get from women. Compared to who you were before, though, there must be at least some good changes.

I am curious to know: Since you changed your ways from being an AFC, a wussy, or just a regular guy, what has been the most positive shift in applying DJhood? I am guessing there will be commonalities across people. No overly short answers. Be as detailed as possible so that other DJs can learn from your insight.

 

[sylvester the cat]

1) Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
2) Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
3) Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
4)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
5)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
6)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
7)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
8)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
9)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
10)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
11)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
12)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
12)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
13)Discovering that I do not need a woman in my life.
14) Discovering that I am more attractive to women knowing I do not need a woman in my life.

 

[zekko]

I guess "Discovering that I don't need a woman in my life" is important, since you repeated it 13 times. I notice there seem to be three main branches to this manosphere thing:

1) The first is the Men Going Their Own Way. They don't need a woman in thier life, so they've pretty much abandoned the idea of having a woman in thier life. They are making plans for proceeding without one, and doing what they can to be happy on thier own without one.

2) The second "don't need a woman in my life", but they see this as a strategy. They think this attitude will make them more attractive to women, and thus it will actually have the effect of bringing more women into thier life. Regarding this, I certainly think that you do not want to be needy (which is a turn off), but beyond that I'm not convinced that this attitude carries any special magnetism with it.

3) The third is a combination of the two. They don't need a woman in their life, but what they've given up on is the idea of having a woman in thier lives as far as relationships go. They've decided they won't need wife or steady girlfriend, but they will instead just keep women around for sex.

 

[El Payaso]

Learning how to handle sh!t tests and to judge a woman by her actions and not her words. To be fair, learning to judge anyone, and not just women, by their actions.

 

[Fireballs]

The things that I have learnt that have helped me the most would be:

1. Learning to never engage logically with a girl, whether that be a sh!t test or any relationship matter.

2. Only dating highly interested women and as El Payaso said, judging them by their actions.

3. Having the mindset of being able to walk away at any time. (this was the hardest thing to instill for me)

 

[jake-a-roo4]

Not letting a girl hold me down to the point where I couldn't become the person that I wanted to be. I was too busy trying to do everything for her when I was neglecting my own plans. She made me feel guilty for wanting to put my own needs ahead of her's. Until I decided that being manipulated being under her thumb was not helping me I let her do that for a long time. Had enough of it with her after I broke free I saw many doors open up for me including religion became an important part of my life. It was a learning experience that taught me well which I think made me a better person all in all.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

1. I'm no longer the greatest anymore. I'm now the double greatest.
2. I know how to deal with women a hella lot better.
3. No longer a pandering omega AFC phaggot. Maybe not DJ but way ahead of the game compared to what I used to be
4. I took the red pill. I am never going back (even if I could).
5. I'm happy.

 

[Don-Kong]

I'm not a Don Juan. I'm trying to be.

Being a real Don Juan is a work-in-progress. Its a perpetual learning experience. For me at least.

It's about overcoming boundaries, releasing fear, doing what I want to do and having great fun whilst doing it independant of the opinion of others.

I strive to be better than the guy I was before.

 

[BeDJ]

Any woman you date could have put out on the first date before.

One you have come to terms with that...you are golden.

 

[Masculinity]

Very interesting shifts in world views here. For me, the greatest challenge was taking women off the pedestal and realizing that they're not these little angels that they are portrayed to be. Also, I learned that one's biggest obstacle in gaming women is often oneself. Lastly, there is not such thing as "out of my league." Sometimes an HB8 would be crazy for you right after an HB6 rejects you.

 

[Alvafe]

I guess i'm more willing to take risks without caring much what the female will think,and i'm more confortable with myself without caring much for the results, I will do what I want and feel is right.

1 - taking more risks, and with that changing my life for better
2 - more confortable and happy with myself
3- better at dealing with people, both male and female
4- always changing for better

 

[HowardHughesDicaprio]

Having a girl to go out with to social events and sometimes arriving at social events with a girl that is hot. A lot more respect from guys around me and just loving life a lot more.

 

[rhythmic]

Just the general "not giving a fck" factor.

Both because
A. Most women love it
B. If they don't... You don't give a fck!

Not a Don Juan, but on my way.