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What to wear to party?

chell

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Hey,

looks like there'll be a party soon... but I have no idea what to wear. It's basically inside this disco. I'm not really tall (about 179 cm or something like that), relatively pale skin, blue eyes, blond hair.

I was thinking a nice shirt (not tucked in), good pair of jeans and some good shoes (not white sneakers/trainers => everyone wears those). I think that it would look good but I'm a bit worried that it might look out of place, the majority of people there being in the 18-20 range.

I don't want to blend in 100%, I just want to wear something that looks good, stands out a little bit without looking silly and totally out of place.

So, fellow aspiring DJs... Any advice?
 

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eaglez1177

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Do you know anyone else that is going? Ask them to see what they are wearing and then add your own twist or something.

What you're plannin on wearing sounds fine, but you shouldnt have to come onto here to ask us for advice on what to wear lol. You should already be confident enough to know that what your wearing looks good, and that it doesnt matter what other people think.

And is this party inside some club? Im not too sure what you mean by "disco".
 

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Yeah, it's kind of like a club: loud music, dance floor, bar. The place isn't really all that great... kind of low class (basically scum gets in).

You're right about the confidence. I should have the confidence to wear what I want... Looks like my inner game still sucks.

As far as what others are wearing... I don't really wanna go and ask a guy: Hey what you wearing? It seems like a girly thing to do?

I should probably just go with what I think looks good and just wear it and not worry, right?
 

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In all seriousness your thinking about this WAY to much. Just put on whats comfortable/looks good at the time.
 

chell

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You guys are right!

Wearing that mankini in public would actually be the ultimate proof of confidence! This is an area I really need to work on... I feel that inner game has a huge impact on how we act and women notice our actions.

So I'll just wear whatever I think looks good on me not for the sake of attracting women but for my own sake. I deserve it :) (Positive self-talk!)
 

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