"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to tell a woman when you don't have a job?

Adakkon

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I've come across this several times. I'm a senior and maybe half the guys have jobs or more. I am fortunate enough to live in a family where I am a bit spoiled.

I have enough money just doing nothing to go out a few times a month and pay for reasonable priced meals with a woman, pay for gas and other stuff. I'd rather focus my spare time on studying.

I've had several women ask me "where do you work" when I start up conversations with them.

I get the feeling when I say I don't this marks me down in their book. They see this as possibly not having money to spend on them, not having ambitions, etc.

I'm wondering if anyone else out there has some way to spin the answer or something to help avoid them getting this impression.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Carnegie

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HOLY COMOLY!! Exact same boat as you my friend...I am a senior in HS come septemeber and I am of a few that has never had a job..what do I say?? I am more concerned about my grades tooo and my family is well off so I too am spoiled..Good thread, I hope someone has anwsers..
 

Gus

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Read the bible.

You're over-analyzing things. If she asks why you don't have a job...tell her that you're studying so you can be successful!
 

DJ-TrickY

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That's an easy enuf question. Just say your a calvin klein underwear model, and give a smile. :D
 

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lol just make something up but keep them guessing (not a serious answer but one that makes them wonder)

ex:


I told this one girl that at 18 I'm a consultant for a fortune 500 company that is located in the city, and that I do risk assesment etc... She asks what I get paid and I say I can't tell you that because it would breach my contract and I would be fired and would not get a severance package. When she ask exactly what I do I just say that I cannot go into detail but basically I just give presentations every other week with one major presentation outlining the big points every month and that I do most my work on the computer at home and go to the office to do research I cannot do at home. lol she hasnt yet but she will ask why im not living the life of throwing cash around, well I invest for the future I have a ira 401k and investment portfolio.

Basically just have fun with it
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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undesputable

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say youre a drug dealer......jk just be honest and say that you dont work, whats the big deal?
 

dannowillbookem

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Originally posted by DJ-TrickY
That's an easy enuf question. Just say your a calvin klein underwear model, and give a smile. :D
thats my favorite line! i read it in some article on sosuave...
 

DJ-TrickY

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Yea, thats where i got it from. You shouldnt overlook it either, cuz you make them laugh everytime:up:
 

dannowillbookem

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Originally posted by DJ-TrickY
Yea, thats where i got it from. You shouldnt overlook it either, cuz you make them laugh everytime:up:

heyyyy.....i'm a pretty good looking guy!!
 

xomel

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"I dont need a job, im getting through in life just on my good looks alone"

"Nah, I'm not poor unlike you. I dont need a job"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Adakkon

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I really like the "getting through in life on good looks alone one".

I've heard the Calvin Cline one too many times before, comes off as a line and if they have heard it before they probably won't laugh.

I think calling her poor is too over the top for a neg-hit kind of responce. (which is what I think you were going for there)

I have to admit though, that probably would stop her in her tracks and make her look at me in a new way, but I don't think it would be positive.

Thanks for the help guys.
 

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tell her your just waiting for your parents to do die to cash in on your big inheirtance
 

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I use a good answer to these types of questions. I do work by the way its just i never give direct answers and it always keeps them guessing. Anyway what i might say to a question such as ''what do u do for work'' is ''I could tell you, but then id have to kill you.''
 
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