"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What to tell a plate thats having an operation.

grayclif

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We havn't spoken in a few weeks and she called me today to tell me she was having an operation. I did receive a few texts from her in that time which I ignored. I felt bad too because I decided to leave this one alone because things had cooled between us, normally we would have discussed something like this.

Her Mom can't make it here till Friday and she mentioned that she has to go through the operation tomorrow "alone". She does have a boyfriend however.

HB Red is having a cyst removed from her uterus. She is a great gal with the best game ever. She keeps me around because I show a bit of promise and I keep her around because her game is tighter than any HB I've read about on this site.

I have been so AFC with this woman in times past and I wish to find a new approach. She expects me to be there for her and of course I will. But I want to let her know I wish her without sounding too AFC.

I'd like to send her a text tonight and then call her in the morning before her operation. Any ideas?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AAAgent

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this is tough, you're getting sucked into her pace as well as getting emotionally attached to this plate. Don't text her and only pick up her calls to find out the details of the operation. You can be there for her but once it's over just leave it at where u guys were at before.

If she wasn't alone i'd say just leave her alone and ignore it but since she's alone and you guys did spend some time together, i think it's alright to make sure she's fine.

sh1t i wouldn't want to go into an operation all by myself, if i had to i'd deal with it but it'd be nice knowing that someones on the other side waiting for you. even if that someone isn't who you would have expected.
 

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Well since you can't sleep with her for a few weeks, put this one on the back burner.. hahaha

Why is her boyfriend not taking care of her.
 

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Dear GrayClif,
Ovarian Cysts are bad news for any girl,because she could become sterile,for a young Girl,any Girl an operation is a big deal,you must be there for her...Why?because its the decent thing to do,worry about rightsizing your relationship later.
 

grayclif

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Vitor: I wouldn't know. We don't talk about her bf's nor my gf's.

Scaramouche: She is 40 but she always talks of having another child and with me as the father no less. Wow! This is deep. I had never thought about this until you pointed it out. This now takes on a new reality. I will be there for her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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