"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what to talk over the phone?

ken888

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Hi, I know this girl that I like alot and currently she is working overseas. The whole story is abit complicated so basically just say we did not know each other well since we met up only a few times with other friends. She called me over the cellphone yesterday and im not really sure what to talk about.

So what should I talk about and how should i talk?

Please advice, thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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setting up a date strike while the irons hot
 

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ask as many random open ended questions...try to avoid those that require a yes or no answer...when she answers try to let her speak for as long as possible before you interrupt with an opinion of though

how are you liking it overseas?
how is the food?
do you watch tv often?
what are your favorite shows?
so what do you do for fun?

keep going like that...for the average woman thats like 20 minutes of talking
 

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MyTeamSupreme said:
how are you liking it overseas?
how is the food?
do you watch tv often?
what are your favorite shows?
so what do you do for fun?
Please no, that sounds like an interview. Something you talk about with someone you barely know. Be the fun guy who doesn't talk about the exact same getting-to-know you stuff as the rest. I almost only call women to set up dates.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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