"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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saturos

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There's this girl who i kinda like and she shows interest, but she is in the grade below me.
A lot of the talking i do is about funny things that happened in a class or a story involving people that both the person and i know. I also am kind of a smart ass and i make sarcastic comments about things that are happening around or about the teacher or something alot.
So anyways, since the girl is a grade beneath me, she doesn't really know who i know and she's not in any of my classes, so most of what i usually talk about, i can't really talk to her about because it wouldn't really make sense to her.
That's not to say i can't talk to her at all, its just that...i can't find anything to actually have a decent conversation about, and its starting to really bug me.
Thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's-Me

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saturos said:
There's this girl who i kinda like and she shows interest, but she is in the grade below me.
A lot of the talking i do is about funny things that happened in a class or a story involving people that both the person and i know. I also am kind of a smart ass and i make sarcastic comments about things that are happening around or about the teacher or something alot.
So anyways, since the girl is a grade beneath me, she doesn't really know who i know and she's not in any of my classes, so most of what i usually talk about, i can't really talk to her about because it wouldn't really make sense to her.
That's not to say i can't talk to her at all, its just that...i can't find anything to actually have a decent conversation about, and its starting to really bug me.
Thoughts?
"What did you do this weekend?"
"What do you do for fun?"

And than continue from there...

You can talk about events going on at your school, like a fashion show or dance.
 

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I'd go with questions along the lines that "It's-Me" suggested. Use open ended questions that get her talking. Often times once the conversation gets going, you'll fall into the listener roll. Get her to talk about herself...
 

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I chose to post here because I just recently answered this question myself. This post most likely won't get read, but hey, even if it helps one person, that's good enough.

Here's your answer: you don't have to talk about anything. It's that simple. When you are "in the zone" ( I hope you know what I mean), it really does not matter WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. You need to be sexual in everything you do, not because it's who you want to be, or because I said so, but because you are a man and you do what you want.

I talk to girls about NOTHING all the time. It's taken me a while to learn what that means, but you can make convo about anything, and nothing. There is literally an infinite amount of things you can talk about. Can't think of something to say? Say exactly what you are thinking to her right at that moment, I tell you 99% of the time it will be better than nothing. Why you ask? "I would never say that, though!" you tell me .. I'm telling you to do it.

Bottom line - learn to talk about nothing while having fun and you are golden
 

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excited for christmas break, excited for new years

ask about upcoming events and stuff
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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