Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Alright, so I haven't talked to this girl in 2-3 weeks. We had been texting back and forth and had class together, and basically talked all class every day, and she threw signs that she liked me, asked me out on a date, etc. I basically haven't texted her because she didn't respond to two texts, one said something about going to see hangover, one said hey whatsup.
So I'm considering texting her in a couple days pretty much because I have nothing to lose(I'm going to college, she's becoming a senior in HS), but I'm not really sure what to say. I feel like if I just say whatsup again she might not respond.

Any advice on what to say or when to contact her? I wouldn't mind just not texting her anymore, but she's a cutie and I don't really have much to lose.

Thanks in advance.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Give more details on her "asking you out on a date." Is this the going to see the movie you mentioned?

Okay, so do you have any fun plans coming up? I say just invite her along. Call her, don't text her. If she's already interested in hanging out with you, then she'll agree, but it's a low-risk proposition for you because you're going to have a good time regardless of if she shows or not. This is your best option right now, and will also limit chances of awkward silences or any other things that you may have an issue with. If things go well, just go back to one of your places afterwards and continue the night. ;)
 

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You've got nothing to lose, just txt her saying wasup. Her response will be a super easy way of telling her interest. She doesn't txt back you give up, she does your in. Make a meting/date whatever then escalate and try get some sex, simple as that.

Don't worry bout it, when you've got nothing to lose is the time for best game i find.
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
Give more details on her "asking you out on a date." Is this the going to see the movie you mentioned?

Okay, so do you have any fun plans coming up? I say just invite her along. Call her, don't text her. If she's already interested in hanging out with you, then she'll agree, but it's a low-risk proposition for you because you're going to have a good time regardless of if she shows or not. This is your best option right now, and will also limit chances of awkward silences or any other things that you may have an issue with. If things go well, just go back to one of your places afterwards and continue the night. ;)
@ the date specifics, we were talking one day, and she said something along the lines of "Well you should take me to go see it then :)" via text. Any ideas on something I might want to invite her too and what NOT to invite her too?

Thanks again.
 

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Mando said:
@ the date specifics, we were talking one day, and she said something along the lines of "Well you should take me to go see it then :)" via text. Any ideas on something I might want to invite her too and what NOT to invite her too?

Thanks again.
Going out to the movie is stuff you do with buddies or your girlfriend, not a girl you want to bang. There's not much time to interact when you're just both staring at a huge screen for 2 hours.

What do you do with your friends? Say you and some friends are going out bowling some night; call her up earlier in the day and tell her she should come with. I don't know what you do for fun with your buddies.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
Going out to the movie is stuff you do with buddies or your girlfriend, not a girl you want to bang. There's not much time to interact when you're just both staring at a huge screen for 2 hours.

What do you do with your friends? Say you and some friends are going out bowling some night; call her up earlier in the day and tell her she should come with. I don't know what you do for fun with your buddies.
Alright I'll try that out, and I didn't really ask her to go to a movie I was just talking about it and she asked me :p. Couldn't resist haha. I'm thinking about texting her tommorow, but if I don't really have any plans to do should I just hold off? Or should I just text her saying "Hey, long time, whatsup?"
 

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Mando said:
Alright I'll try that out, and I didn't really ask her to go to a movie I was just talking about it and she asked me :p. Couldn't resist haha. I'm thinking about texting her tommorow, but if I don't really have any plans to do should I just hold off? Or should I just text her saying "Hey, long time, whatsup?"
NO. I specifically said to call her, not text her. I realize the situation with the movie invitation, I'm just telling you that it's not a good plan. If you don't really have any plans then make some. Do you like to have fun? Do you have friends?
 

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NO. I specifically said to call her, not text her. I realize the situation with the movie invitation, I'm just telling you that it's not a good plan. If you don't really have any plans then make some. Do you like to have fun? Do you have friends?
Haha of course. She's in the popular/jock clique though, and I'm just casual(kinda can go with whatever group I want, except emos :p). So I don't know if she'd feel comfortable, but I could get a couple of friends to go bowling I guess since thats nearby. Yeah calling would definately be better, even though she might reject it easier >_<. But oh well, **** idc anymore. Haha. Thanks again Bucket
 
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