"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What to say and do when ur GF breaks up w u?

EyeOnThePrize

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Thankfully this isnt going to happen (hopefully at all), but if it ever does I’d like to know the proper way to go about things, the red pill way, that will make her regret the very decision she would make.

Things to do and say when a your girlfriend breaks up with you (in that moment)?
It happens. The behavior that girls love is when you're in agreement out of maturity, because your effortless agreement shows self confidence and thus conviction in every decision, idea, and execution. She knows what's good for her and she's decided to try someone else. It's your responsibility to hold her accountable to that decision by daring her to leave and daring her to stop talking to you, etc.

Say ok then walk away, go home, and go on with your new free time. If you feel heartbroken then you should especially avoid her and all women until you're independent and self sufficient. It should be no big deal to put a woman behind you.

That's what life demands of you, that you take calculated risks, even emotional ones, and remain grounded. That's all life really is, risk management. Always weigh your options, always have a plan.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tell us what happened from there @ThisIsSparta
The issues we had before her exodus developed as she became more and more of a bully since our sons birth.
She felt herself in a position of power and tried to force me and my blood-family into complience in every possible way. I played along for 1,5 years in fear of loosing my kid until my freedom and self esteem was at an alltime low. It was then (mid 2018) when i knew i couldnt go one step further the way she is pushing me and youtube offert me the redpill. Over the following half year i educated myself about waaamen and the error of my past ways. I didnt take her **** anymore which led to the point when she moved out (01/2019).

I let her move back in 3 weeks later. My Son was only 2 years and i wasnt ready to let him go. If it wasnt for him i would have sent her packing long before and no way that i would have taken her back. This was Feb. 2019.

She promised to turn her head around 180 degrees.
I have to say she really makes an effort to blend in and worked a lot on herself. My life is about 80% better now AND i see my son every day.

BUT, i know her mind hasnt really changed that much, she just accepts that she has to play the role to make this work ...... i have to be on guard constantly. Its a daily fight to keep the frame and i have to put her in her place from time to time.

I do not know how much longer i want to live like that, but for now having my kid with me outweighs the negative.

Before anyone asks, sex was never an issue. If anything, she wants more sex from me (having now 2-3 times/week).
 

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Thankfully this isnt going to happen (hopefully at all), but if it ever does I’d like to know the proper way to go about things, the red pill way, that will make her regret the very decision she would make.

Things to do and say when a your girlfriend breaks up with you (in that moment)?
Hotter girls are turning 18 19 20 21 every day #nextSet!

Pull top form SMV 18-23. Revenge porn ftw


Wait wut
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Looking back now, her Ass wasn't even that special.. No major loss
There's only 1 enemy in ur life, and its you.

If you fixed urself, then everything becomes good.

Same goes for everyone else here.

I keep repeating the same thing over and over again but it is only when you fully realise it, as you do now, that this is the only truth.

Good for you soul man, you're changed a lot ever since you recovered, and it's for the better.
 

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You say "bye" and never look back.

It took about 5 years for one of my exes to comprehend that I don't want to talk to her ever again. I got at least 30 facebook messages from her as she tried to reestablish contact in some shape or form. She even contacted my mom to ask why I wouldn't answer her.

I know she deeply regrets her decision to leave me given the losers she got involved with just before our breakup, which is what precipitated the breakup in the first place; but she did the leaving and she's got the loser mentality, so fvck her.
 

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You say "bye" and never look back.

It took about 5 years for one of my exes to comprehend that I don't want to talk to her ever again. I got at least 30 facebook messages from her as she tried to reestablish contact in some shape or form. She even contacted my mom to ask why I wouldn't answer her.

I know she deeply regrets her decision to leave me given the losers she got involved with just before our breakup, which is what precipitated the breakup in the first place; but she did the leaving and she's got the loser mentality, so fvck her.
Her choice in men shows how much she valued the interaction with you. Don't be mad at her, be mad at you for allowing it in the first place.
 

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That's the wrong mindset. There is really no reason to be vindictive. You will break up with many girls as well because you just don't feel the connection or they aren't what you are looking for. There's nothing wrong with that. 99% of the time, when someone makes up their mind to leave someone, especially in the case of women, their feelings have long gone and often times they will have even already jumped over to another guy. So there really isn't usually anything you can do to make them "regret" their decision, and why should you?

I would generally say, "I appreciate you letting me know how you feel. Take care." And then from that point I would cease any and all communication with her, even if she initiates. Simple as that.
Good point,
"I was hoping you'd break up with me. I was feeling guilty and didn't know how or when to do it. Thanks"

Leave it at that and get her hamster wheel spinning over that. Lol
That’s fookin dirty....I like it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thankfully this isnt going to happen (hopefully at all), but if it ever does I’d like to know the proper way to go about things, the red pill way, that will make her regret the very decision she would make.

Things to do and say when a your girlfriend breaks up with you (in that moment)?
Okay im going to make a sandwich, see ya
 

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If it is a run of the mill breakup, (not something serious like illness or death in the family...but more like "I'm not happy" ) you say this:



"I think you are making a mistake, but if that is what you want I understand. Take care"

Then you delete her number, and she ceases to exist.

You don't reach out, you don't wave, and you don't acknowledge her in public.

You go home and spend the next few weeks, absorbing and processing your feelings.

Then when you re-emerge, you get as social as you can to stay busy and keep your mind off things. If you see her, don't approach her, pretend she doesn't exist. That she is invisible. If she approaches you to talk, be polite and as brief as you can make it. Get away from her asap.

She wanted you out of her life, so make sure she experiences that.

If she texts you breadcrumbs, "Hey, what's up" Respond a day later "Why are you contacting me"

H: "I just wanted to see how you are"
You: "Awesome, gotta run" And that is how you handle every interaction until she apologizes or begs to come back. When someone doesn't appreciate your presence, they need to FEEL 100% of your absence.

Until she texts you something like "I made a big mistake" or "I'm sorry, I miss you" she deserves very little in responses. Some would argue she deserves no response.

There has to be consequences when someone decides to hurt you.
Excellent post. I’m interested to see your advice when it isn’t the run of the mill break up
 

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Also how does one process there emotions
By not running from or avoiding them, embrace them and take some time for yourself. Observe but don't judge. Time will do the rest as long as your stay away from the source of addiction (her).
Staying busy works for most because too much alone time can make you dwell and from there it's easy to become stuck in a loop of harmful thought patterns of 'what ifs' and micro analysis.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Perhaps and I hope so
He knows we aren't supposed to be stupid behind women. So if we are it's on us. Great core values for man are found in most of the religious texts. In the Christian bible. ecclesiastes 25, 26 and proverbs has a blueprint for a solid and strong man. It's described the women that we should reject and divorce, right there in the book. It's described how they will do us dirty if we are weak.
 

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Mr good there is no Ecc 25 26
Did you miss type that? What verses specifically are you talking about
Ecclesiasticus Chapters 25 and Chapters 26 are full of what a virtuous woman is, what a bad woman is, do not give your strength to women, and when you should reject or divorce her.

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Ecclesiasticus-25-26/ - This verse simply means if she refuses to submit, you have to let her go.

https://www.bible.com/bible/546/SIR.25.22.KJVA - if your woman is fully supporting you, she will resent you

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Ecclesiasticus-25-23/ - a wicked woman who doesn't support you, will make you weak and strip away your courage.

https://biblehub.com/proverbs/31-3.htm - do not share your strength with women, it will ruin you.

https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Ecclesiasticus-26-12/ - basically a wh0re wife will sample every mans essense. I believe "waters" means verbal communication. So she's feeling their vibe. When we are talkinga bout "quivers" and "arrows", i believe they mean she will allow penetration.
 

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Indifference is your strongest weapon. All that nonsense you hear from women about wanting you to fight for them is just that, nonsense.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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