"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What to say after dancing

War Against Betaism

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I've never really put much thought into this until now; what would be the best thing to say when you want to stop dancing with a girl? Today I danced with 4 girls and three of them I sort of just said "Hey thanks for the dance I'm gonna go now." Though after the night when we were all going home one of my friends said "Ya this one girl I danced with told me 'hey thanks for the dance!' and I'm like wtf who says that." I stayed silence of course. I don't know if he's just wrong and it's really the proper thing to say or I just don't know what to say. I usually have a good idea of what to say and what not to say, but here I don't really know. What would be the best thing to say in this situation?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Being a dancer myself, the etiquette is that after you finish the dance, walk the lady off the dance floor, while protecting her from the flying arms and legs of the ones who can't dance, to where you found her earlier (and asked her to have a dance), say "thank you for the dance" or something similar, and either enter a conversation, or go find another lady for a new dance.
 

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If your interested in her why not just pull her off to the side and flirt a bit, you'll end up getting some at the end of the night. If not, then what you said is perfectly fine.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Lucivar said:
If your interested in her why not just pull her off to the side and flirt a bit, you'll end up getting some at the end of the night. If not, then what you said is perfectly fine.
The problem is that I'm usually dancing with girls that I go up to on the dance floor, and most of the time they're usually with their friends, whom they don't want to leave. I tried it one time, she didn't want to leave so I just left. I employed this other strategy that my friend taught me; just get the girl to notice you and if you see her again outside of the dance floor, just start talking to her. I actually did this a couple times with my friends wingmanning it or me, I got a couple numbers off of that.

I had a feeling what I was saying was the right thing to say, my friend likes to bullsh1t a lot though, I bet she didn't even say **** to him. I just wanted to confirm this though.
 
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