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What to say after dancing

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I've never really put much thought into this until now; what would be the best thing to say when you want to stop dancing with a girl? Today I danced with 4 girls and three of them I sort of just said "Hey thanks for the dance I'm gonna go now." Though after the night when we were all going home one of my friends said "Ya this one girl I danced with told me 'hey thanks for the dance!' and I'm like wtf who says that." I stayed silence of course. I don't know if he's just wrong and it's really the proper thing to say or I just don't know what to say. I usually have a good idea of what to say and what not to say, but here I don't really know. What would be the best thing to say in this situation?
 

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Being a dancer myself, the etiquette is that after you finish the dance, walk the lady off the dance floor, while protecting her from the flying arms and legs of the ones who can't dance, to where you found her earlier (and asked her to have a dance), say "thank you for the dance" or something similar, and either enter a conversation, or go find another lady for a new dance.
 

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If your interested in her why not just pull her off to the side and flirt a bit, you'll end up getting some at the end of the night. If not, then what you said is perfectly fine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lucivar said:
If your interested in her why not just pull her off to the side and flirt a bit, you'll end up getting some at the end of the night. If not, then what you said is perfectly fine.
The problem is that I'm usually dancing with girls that I go up to on the dance floor, and most of the time they're usually with their friends, whom they don't want to leave. I tried it one time, she didn't want to leave so I just left. I employed this other strategy that my friend taught me; just get the girl to notice you and if you see her again outside of the dance floor, just start talking to her. I actually did this a couple times with my friends wingmanning it or me, I got a couple numbers off of that.

I had a feeling what I was saying was the right thing to say, my friend likes to bullsh1t a lot though, I bet she didn't even say **** to him. I just wanted to confirm this though.
 
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