What to make of this break up?

[the_stig]

Been dating this girl exclusively for a few months and we've had some fun. I'm 27 and she's 20. I had been kinda having my doubts recently... she's big into pot, i'm a health nut, the age gap, we're different, etc, but I still liked her enough to see where it went.

After spending last weekend together, I was distant this past week for the above reasons; we didn't hang out like normal and I had to cancel tenative weekend plans last minute for a friends birthday. When I talked to her Saturday, she was curious why we hadn't talked much recently but everything seemed cool between us. Not sure if that played a part in this, but I feel bad for kind of blowing her off all week, but we did text a few times. I wanted to take her out tomorrow but got the "let's talk" and she told me it felt more like friends. I asked if it was another guy, she said no. I maintained my cool and composure agreeing we were different, didn't have the greatest chemistry, and it was probably for the best. She asked if I ever wanted to hang out as friends, I said I didnt know but hinted probably not. I let her go a few minutes later after some small talk.

I'm just curious if I handled it pretty well, if it was a pretty clean cut breakup, or if there's more to it? How should I handle it from here?

 

[Boilermaker]

there's no from here.

you are done and out.

get over it, next, young people are flaky and hard to attach. (very similar thing happened to me, see my post "I NEXTed her" from a few days ago.
I feel your pain, but it's really good to get some people into your life. If you don't have a plate, it's good to try to check the existing directory and try to salvage a few.

I have discovered that I already know more than a few females to play with and get some counter-play going while I free myself from withdrawal...

good luck

 

[Chickfight]

Her interest just waned bro, sorry but it happens. You seem to be taking it alright. It seems like she's a genuinely cool girl though, so you could still hang out as friends if you can get over your feelings for her.

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with keeping girls as friends. Believe it or not, a few girls (not a lot) are actually cool and fun to hang out with. Make sure you don't have strong feelings for her, even if she's hot though. Treat her like any casual friend. Sure it's normal to want to **** her, but an ideal situation would be when you know you can get plenty of hot chicks and do. This way, you can actually enjoy this person as a friend PLUS extremely good for social proof/wingwoman purposes.

You did handle it well. Even if you don't have the girl anymore, your self respect is intact.

Do you REALLY WANT to get her back? I don't recommend it, but if you want to I can always offer a gameplan, but I warn you, it would have to go into some dark, manipulative, ****ed up territories to salvage this.

 

[Big Overseas 1]

These young girls got attention spans bout as short as a tick's dyck. Add that to pot-love and I'm surprised she hung around that long. Young girls get distracted by otha stuff quick.

 

[the_stig]

I'm really glad I found these forums. Some really sharp minds on here.

I have one more question about my situation. Could being distant for the week have pushed her away? Went like this... we spend Saturday evening and Sunday together, no lack of sex, cuddling, and all seemed well. The follwing week I pulled back a little; I guess to sort my feelings, give some space after a two days together, see if she would chase. She texted me briefly Wednesday and Thursday, which point I told her we'd go on a fun weekend date which I then had to cancel. She did ask why we hadn't been talking much at that point, and I said I was really busy. Tried to reschedule for Sunday but she had plans with friends, and a few days later got canned when I tried to make plans again. She said our not talking much had nothing to do with it.

My gut says if she was still interested, she would have asked questions like "why are you avoiding me". Another part of me thinks that being distant gave her the impression I wasn't interested anymore and so she decided to pull the rug out from under me. If that's the case, I want to talk with her and see if it's something I can fix. Would talking to her again in a few days be adviseable, or what's my best course of action?

She is shy, so it wasn't the best chemistry i've ever had (she admitted the same) but not awful, plus she had a lot of nice traits: played zero games, mature, honest and loyal. I did find it interested that she texted me early this afternoon to let me know she found my cd we had been looking for.