"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hey guys, i'd really like some advice on this

theres this girl right, who i like...

anyway, after she broke up with her bf we were kinda on for 5 weeks (nothing official), but she was also interested in this other guy as well. after about 5 weeks she told me she didnt see me as more than a friend, so i kinda cut back and didn't talk to her much, but now every time i try to get her to do something with me "as a friend" (what im really trying to do is get her to like me again :( ) she makes excuses and ****

is there any way to rekindle things? :confused:

please don't tell me just to next her either
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You wan us to tell you the answer yet you tell us not to tell you to next her which is wrong. You have to next girls that put you in the friends zone. Unless you want to be friends?
 
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i duno, its hard to explain, if nexting her is the only option then so be it i guess :|

also, she never initiates conversation with me on msn anymore (she used to all the time), so should i just cut her off?
 
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I never initiate conversation unless I want to. Don't block her but don't bring up convesation with her any more.
 
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so u think if i stop paying her that attention shen she'll wonder why and start paying me more?

i get the feelingn if i stopped paying her attention she'd just be like "whatever"

i want to make her care that i "dont care" even though i do

im an afc i know :(

ive got all the confidence in the world, but i know under it all im still insecure and i still can't master that "stay away" part:down:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You can not be AFC and Don Juan they are essentially opposites. Here is my msn [email protected]

My yahoo and AIM are aisaac2008
 
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Hey

Yeah i been in your situation b4... it sucks

anyway... i hooked up with this girl at a drunken party,, and then being the chump that i was i wanted to know if we were "official" i got the big LJBF..... anyway... and thats what motivated me 2 get my shyte together, foeund this site etc............

Stop living for chiks and start living for yourself. im really into the whole self imrpovement thing right now-- at the moment i dont give a rats if a girl likes me or not--im hapy just chilling (this doesent mean dont approach chicks but just dont care what they think of you).....

anyway for the short answer, my advise would be to next....at least for now... if she starts digging you again after you dont pay her attention you MIGHT be able to turn the situation around... but dont call her again/ask to hang out for a long time yet. pursue other prospects.

peace
 
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