She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sorry, there's never going to be a time when it's magically easier to ask her. Grab your balls and do it now, before it's too late.Originally posted by unknowntim3
yeah we went to the beach and stuff, had a really fun time.. but i never did get the balls enouph to ask her out.. the situation doesnt ever seem right to come flat out and ask her out... i need a way to ask her... bah
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thx You do realize that what you just described is a common DJ technique, correct? She's playing games with you and you're falling for them completely.Originally posted by unknowntim3
omg guys... you dont even understand... this chick pisses me off soo much, i just got home and like sitting here depressed, not wanting to do anything...
i dont understand her... yesterday, we went out for lunch, went to her house, had a fund time, sat around for a bit until i left cause one of her old friends who used to live with her came over, and it was lame... i left, everything was fine
now today... all day she like completly ignored me, didnt talk to her once.. i dont ****ing understand, this is what im talking about... the MIXED SIGNALS! i dont know wtf to do
im just going to call later and ask her wtf is up, and why she acts like that... really intrested and into me one day and then the ignoring the next...
wtf!
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You have confidence in yourself and do what you want, regardless of how she's acting...You can't let her control how you're feeling about yourself. You've put her on a pedestal whether or not you realize it, because you're letting her dictate this relationship. I'm guessing you've already read the Bible, but maybe you should take another look, because this is pretty basic stuff.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is NOT RECOMMENDED. Reread my post above. Does it say to be a man and go for what you want, or does it say to be a girl and "talk about your relationship".