Ok here's my issue.....Just graduated from college a few months ago. I've been in a relationship for a few years now, the last year or so has been pretty bad and it's looking like I need to end this and re-enter the single life i've been dreaming about for quite a while now. Sounds simple? Here is where things get a bit complicated.
A few weeks after being home from school I bump into a girl I used to know back in highschool. (Not friends we just knew of each other, met a few times). It wasn't exactly random becaue shes really good friends with a good friend of mine and came out with him to meet up with me that night (I wasn't aware she was coming). Anyway, I knew she had been in a long term relationship as well due to the whole facebook deal. We end up talking a lot that night and exchanging phone numbers. From that night on we've been talking constantly and I hang out with her more than I do my own gf. Sometimes one on one but mostly with other friends. The deal with her relationhip is that the dude lives about 4 hours from us and they've recently been fighting a lot. Apparently before this summer it was a flawless relationhip (Near proposal type stuff). Anywho, we call ourselves "good friends" but we both know damn well we dont treat each other like friends.
The other night we actually went out for drink alone and put everything out on the table. Basically she told me she likes me and I make her nervous when i'm around yada yada.. She said shes never been this tempted by a guy and it shouldnt be this hard to not cheat on her bf that she loves. Which shes been very close to doing with me lately. We're constantly talking about what if we dated and her friends have told me she thinks about it a lot.
Now believe me this is not the case of guys been in a long term relationhip and hes just all excited at the chance of a new chick. I've been in many positions to hook up with hott chicks (3 florida spring breaks), and never have. Unfortunatley, I actually like and want this chick.
It' been about 2 months now and we're both in our relationships with other people, the thing is mine is more likely to be done with pretty soon and shes still in deep with hers. We still hang out a lot, I just don't want to get into friend zone over here by hanging out so much. This wouldnt be so hard if this chick wasn't smoking hott and i hadnt wanted her since high school.
My question is:
Do I become an ******* and cut her off of hanging out (which is most of the time initiated by her) and find out how she really feels?
Or do I keep hanging out with her doing the hole flirt all night thing and nothing more and see where that goes?
A few weeks after being home from school I bump into a girl I used to know back in highschool. (Not friends we just knew of each other, met a few times). It wasn't exactly random becaue shes really good friends with a good friend of mine and came out with him to meet up with me that night (I wasn't aware she was coming). Anyway, I knew she had been in a long term relationship as well due to the whole facebook deal. We end up talking a lot that night and exchanging phone numbers. From that night on we've been talking constantly and I hang out with her more than I do my own gf. Sometimes one on one but mostly with other friends. The deal with her relationhip is that the dude lives about 4 hours from us and they've recently been fighting a lot. Apparently before this summer it was a flawless relationhip (Near proposal type stuff). Anywho, we call ourselves "good friends" but we both know damn well we dont treat each other like friends.
The other night we actually went out for drink alone and put everything out on the table. Basically she told me she likes me and I make her nervous when i'm around yada yada.. She said shes never been this tempted by a guy and it shouldnt be this hard to not cheat on her bf that she loves. Which shes been very close to doing with me lately. We're constantly talking about what if we dated and her friends have told me she thinks about it a lot.
Now believe me this is not the case of guys been in a long term relationhip and hes just all excited at the chance of a new chick. I've been in many positions to hook up with hott chicks (3 florida spring breaks), and never have. Unfortunatley, I actually like and want this chick.
It' been about 2 months now and we're both in our relationships with other people, the thing is mine is more likely to be done with pretty soon and shes still in deep with hers. We still hang out a lot, I just don't want to get into friend zone over here by hanging out so much. This wouldnt be so hard if this chick wasn't smoking hott and i hadnt wanted her since high school.
My question is:
Do I become an ******* and cut her off of hanging out (which is most of the time initiated by her) and find out how she really feels?
Or do I keep hanging out with her doing the hole flirt all night thing and nothing more and see where that goes?