What to do!

[Jon55]

I'm a recovering afc who is really getting his life back together. I've been keeping busy with work and school and other goals I've been meaning to do. Things seem like they're starting to turn around for me and lately I've become a lot more open, friendly, and outgoing like I used to be.

Lately there's a girl who I've been hanging out with who is pretty cool. Her body isn't that stunning, but she's cute and has a awesome personality (yeah, I know, but I don't know how else to say it).

When ever I'm with this girl I don't really want to date her, but when I'm away from her I find myself kinda wanting her. I'm thinking maybe I just want the companionship more than anything, but I don't know. I know she likes me a lot, it's just that I'm not sure if it's the afc in me talking, or if I should genuinely give this girl a try.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

I know what you could do! You could put on some music and start dancing! Sure, it won't help your current situation, but it'll be fun!

 

[DjSoOHain]

its the afc.. if u werent an afc you would fuc-k her the same day you knew that she liked you no offense

 

[ARrocket]

If you're SURE you wouldn't want to date her (or sleep with her for that matter) then befriend her...you'll get your companionship. Plus she could have hot friends

 

[Jon55]

It gets worse. Today it turns out she suddenly has a boyfriend (who she brought to class today). She still acted the same toward me (flirty and very friendly). She didn't have a boyfriend before, I know, so this must be sudden. But again, when I'm with her I could care less and don't really want a relationship with her, but when we're away I kind of want to take things further. Now that this has happened, it's starting to bug me kinda (not like I think about it every minute and sulk about it though). Ugh, this is so the afc speaking.

 

[DonJuan11]

When ever I'm with this girl I don't really want to date her, but when I'm away from her I find myself kinda wanting her. I'm thinking maybe I just want the companionship more than anything, but I don't know. I know she likes me a lot, it's just that I'm not sure if it's the afc in me talking, or if I should genuinely give this girl a try.

Hmmm....sounds a bit like ADD.

 

[ezily]

sounds like oneitis.

 

[TakenDirectly]

well, from what I've read (I can't say from experience since I'm trying to recover myself), the best thing is to date and hang around MORE WOMEN. Supposedly, if you hang out a lot or too much with just one girl then you get this feeling of her actually BEING the one. Imagine hanging a single poster of a girl on your wall compared to hanging 10 or 20 (taken from Pooks book). The way I see it, yeah you can give her some attention, but not in a best friends kind of way. Joke and laugh, maybe initiate some small kino, but consider the fact that she has a boyfriend and don't get too close to her so she can see you aren't waiting there for her like a puppy. Go out, look at other girls, talk to them and hang out with them. It's all about weeding out the wrong girls to find the right one.

 

[Jon55]

well, from what I've read (I can't say from experience since I'm trying to recover myself), the best thing is to date and hang around MORE WOMEN. Supposedly, if you hang out a lot or too much with just one girl then you get this feeling of her actually BEING the one. Imagine hanging a single poster of a girl on your wall compared to hanging 10 or 20 (taken from Pooks book). The way I see it, yeah you can give her some attention, but not in a best friends kind of way. Joke and laugh, maybe initiate some small kino, but consider the fact that she has a boyfriend and don't get too close to her so she can see you aren't waiting there for her like a puppy. Go out, look at other girls, talk to them and hang out with them. It's all about weeding out the wrong girls to find the right one.

Yeah, that's pretty much what I figured. The thing that sucks is she was a pretty cool girl...just...well, lacking in the body department (cute face tho). But honestly we got along great and flirted a lot.