Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what to do??

mendigoazul

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my name is josh and i'm new to the site. i met a girl about a month ago in one of my classes and after class i walked her to her next class and thats how it started. after that we pretty much hung out every mon and wed and life was good for about 3 weeks until i asked her out now she is acting wierd. i really like this girl i have not talked to her since Wednesday we are soppuse to go to the movies. so i tried talking to her but she does not pick up her phone. i just need to talk to her. i dont know what to do. any advice would be great. thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Youngblood, she was surprised by your interest in her because she is not interested in you and thus the discordant response - do not contact her unless she initiates!
 

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thanks man but i just need to talk to her to see where we stand. because i dont want to have all these regrets. i want to find out if she is scared or what?? is that a bad thing?
 
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By her not contacting you - SAYS ALOT!!!!!! It's called a non-verbal response!!!!

You'll look weak and desperate if you ask her "Why" - don't do it kid!! If she volunteers info without you asking, then "OK" - Just say "No problema baby hot cakes, I'm just doing my duty as a man!!"
 

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DUDE!!!! you don't NEED to talk to anybody. carry on with your life. Believe me, it's better for you. You shouldn't be letting any girl get to your head like that. Fvck where you stand with her, Where does she stand with you? she's not paying you any attention so move on and do you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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