I've been in school now for about two weeks. On the first day I walked into one of my classes and noticed this girl eyeing me right off the bat. So, I started flirting back with her. Things were pretty good. She was almost always looking/staring at me and she is always trying to be near me whenever possible. So, a couple days ago I decided to ask her to go out to lunch with me. When I asked her, she sort of looked away and like mumbled that her friend wouldn't like it. So, i told her that her friend could go without her for a day and that she should come out with me. Anyways, she nvr showed up and I dont know why. I'm not sure if she is interested or not. Whats the deal? Should I ask her to go out again. Ever since that day, which was only a few days ago, I noticed that she is starign less and she doesnt seem as interested, but she still gives me a look every once in a while. What should I do next and what should I have done?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What to do?
- Thread starter gymshorts
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Docs
Banned
*slaps gymshorts with a stinky bun full of budget sloppy joe*
We aren't pricks, at least...we don't tend to be pricks.
- Read the bible, you are new, asking a fairly novice question.
- As for this girl, sh!t happens, she left, her loss. Tomorrow's another day.
- Don't re-ask, you were too formal in asking her.
- Two weeks you've been seeing this girl display IOIs...have you done anything else about it, such as approaching her, flirting, teasing...?
We aren't pricks, at least...we don't tend to be pricks.
- Read the bible, you are new, asking a fairly novice question.
- As for this girl, sh!t happens, she left, her loss. Tomorrow's another day.
- Don't re-ask, you were too formal in asking her.
- Two weeks you've been seeing this girl display IOIs...have you done anything else about it, such as approaching her, flirting, teasing...?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
what the hell, im not a spineless boring whatever the hell you were trying to say, where the hell did you come from. You know nothing about anything. Obviously shes interested b/c everyday she is giving me all sorts of looks and rubbing her leg against mine etc... but i just dont understand why she flaked twice and the next day shell come back like nothing happend and start the same bullsh!t over again. I dont think she knows what she wants and taht she is confused
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Because some girls are total nutjobs -SOME- and some are genuine... She's prolly got problems, like someones f ucked her over or something...
Bandura's social learning theory.... By observing a model it's seen as the norm... If she's experienced it it's likely that it's affected he more stronger than if just observing it...
It helps if you understand the study, http://www.criminology.fsu.edu/crimtheory/bandura.htm
But yeah, she prolly doesnt even know it, but she may be screwing you over
Bandura's social learning theory.... By observing a model it's seen as the norm... If she's experienced it it's likely that it's affected he more stronger than if just observing it...
It helps if you understand the study, http://www.criminology.fsu.edu/crimtheory/bandura.htm
But yeah, she prolly doesnt even know it, but she may be screwing you over
Docs
Banned
I have a theory!
*puts music on*
She take my money when I'm in need
Yea she's a trifflin friend indeed
Oh she's a gold digga way over town
That dig's on me...
- Kayne West/Jamie Foxx
--Just being a prick, we need more [developing] info
*puts music on*
She take my money when I'm in need
Yea she's a trifflin friend indeed
Oh she's a gold digga way over town
That dig's on me...
- Kayne West/Jamie Foxx
--Just being a prick, we need more [developing] info
Docs said:--Just being a prick, we need more [developing] info
In what way?
yeah, muphaser is right, her last bf fukced her over. He cheated on her and treated her like crap. Also, how could she be a gold digger if she wont even go out with me? Thats what i dont get. I know she is a lil messed up but she seems to be a nice person, not that i really know her all that well. She even went as far to tell her lil sister to tell my lil sis that she thinks im hilarious. Its wierd, could it be taht shes just really really shy. Idk b/c then why isnt she shy enough to flirt? I guess she is a nutjob, but its hard to forget about her when she flirts everyday with me. Idk what to do, should i confront her about flaking, she i just ignore her totally (which ive tried b4 and shes just come on stronger than ever) or is there something i can do?
Try this:
Flirt with her for fun, show ppl you can have fun and get on well with girls...
Nothing, absollutely nothing more attractive in a male that having another girl flirting with him.
Nothing to say you cant do that, just dont put yourself out and dont hope for anything
Flirt with her for fun, show ppl you can have fun and get on well with girls...
Nothing, absollutely nothing more attractive in a male that having another girl flirting with him.
Nothing to say you cant do that, just dont put yourself out and dont hope for anything
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Docs
Banned
Also, how could she be a gold digger
Haha, I was being stupid.
Haha, I was being stupid.