What to do with this?

[Will6]

Hey guys, this is a nice forum here. I wanted to see what you guys think of this. It was thursday, had a second get together with a girl, it was going good, shes was flirting, touching my hand, thigh and smiling all night. At one point, I ask her out for this weekend, she says yeah. Shes texts me when she gets home and asks if I will call her after work tomorrow, I do (mistake maybe) and it goes to voicemail, so I leave a quick message and tell her to call me. Shes yet to call and I am debating what to do. We are supposed to go out this weekend, although time and day was not confirmed, figured we would have talked about it last night but she did not answer.

I can tell she likes me but she is clearly trying to play some games right, so what to do now? Wait it out and see if she calls today or send her a text and asking whats up, how we supposed to do something if you dont get back... Thanks everyone.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Hey guys, this is a nice forum here. I wanted to see what you guys think of this. It was thursday, had a second get together with a girl, it was going good, shes was flirting, touching my hand, thigh and smiling all night. At one point, I ask her out for this weekend, she says yeah. Shes texts me when she gets home and asks if I will call her after work tomorrow, I do (mistake maybe) and it goes to voicemail, so I leave a quick message and tell her to call me. Shes yet to call and I am debating what to do. We are supposed to go out this weekend, although time and day was not confirmed, figured we would have talked about it last night but she did not answer.

I can tell she likes me but she is clearly trying to play some games right, so what to do now? Wait it out and see if she calls today or send her a text and asking whats up, how we supposed to do something if you dont get back... Thanks everyone.

If it were me I would wait it out...go out with some buddies enjoy your weekend, don't let it go to waste. Don't get hung up on this one phone call from a chic.

Then again she could have missed your call/voicemail. SHI*T happens sometimes, so don't over think stuff. I'd send her a text going something like "Hi!! Tried hitting you up thursday hun, but now I already have other plans, maybe we'll hang out some other time"

Kind of lets her know you're still interested a bit, but at the same time shows you're busy and can have OTHER things going on in your life when you choose

 

[underoath777]

Go pursue other girls. Don't fall into the trap of just having one girl you're after.

Here's the thing. A lot of girls flake. Find more girls, and eventually you'll find one who you really like who doesn't flake.

You could text her and say, "Get your dancing shoes ready for this weekend "

Something that implies that you're still going out.

Whatever her response, don't react to it. In the grand scheme of your life, this girl shouldn't factor into your happiness. If she flakes, fvck it. Pursue other women.

 

[Alextheegreat]

Yeah do what theses guys said, just keep getting new numbers. I just had a couple women flake on me, though you did make a mistake calling her when she said for you to call though... but remember theres way better women out there!

 

[Will6]

You could text her and say, "Get your dancing shoes ready for this weekend "

Something that implies that you're still going out.

Whatever her response, don't react to it. In the grand scheme of your life, this girl shouldn't factor into your happiness. If she flakes, fvck it. Pursue other women.

So if shes says what time should I be ready, you saying I should just ignore her?

 

[Igetit!]

I agree with what Underoath said.

You already asked her out,she's already said yes,so just go with that assumption.

To ask her out again after she already told you yes would hint of insecurity.

So if shes says what time should I be ready, you saying I should just ignore her?

No man,you misunderstood what Underoath was saying.


He's not saying to ignore her response,he's saying not to let WHATEVER she says shake you,or that is,shake your confidence.



That thing about you calling her and leaving a short message,I wouldn't have done that.



It was HER IDEA for you to call her after she got off work,then when you call her,it goes to voicemail? And she didn't return your call?

That's not cool.



Nevertheless,go ahead and call her,assume she still wants to go out with you,and just tell her what you have planned,the time,etc.



That means you need to already have the plans for the date worked out BEFORE you call. And PLEASE....WHATEVER YOU DO,don't call her up,have her ask you what you two are going to do and you go,"Uh,I don't know. What do you want to do?".



Don't say that. Already have the details worked out.



If you do call her and she tries to give you the run around again,that'll have to be deal with later.

 

[Will6]

Thanks guys. And dont worry, i wont let what she says shake anything, she just put this into an unnecessary situation. You're right I should not have left a message but at least all I said was give me a call. I guess I could of made it worse.

 

[Will6]

Update and New Bs

Ok guys, I figured I would let you know what happened.
So I let her know we were supposed to go out but we never talked, so I'm going to head out with some friends tonight. She got back and says shes sorry but is really sick. Possible I guess, she then quickly responds that she promises we will go out when shes better. Then quickly follows up that I can text or talk to her later if I want. I tell her to get some rest and I will see how shes doing later.

I dont end up contacting her later like she suggests, besides shes sick and she shouldn't be up late. I then text her the next evening and ask how shes feeling. No response. I'm sure on purpose.

So what do you guys think of this girl, is this a case of playing hard to get? If so, do I do the same and give it sometime or stay persistent and see if she wants to get together this week. Thanks again everyone.

 

[alwayslead8821]

Sounds like your still giving her to much control of what to do. I would probably throw in the towel.

I agree IGetit, next time wait a little bit to call her a couple hours late or maybe the next day and say something like "I was planning on going to so and so if you would like to join you could." The girl asked you to call her then but a lot of times you can't do exactly what she says cause most girls subconsciously do not want to be in control. They want you to lead and be an alpha male. So be a man and don't worry what the hell she thinks! Good luck!

 

[tafakna]

At one point, I ask her out for this weekend, she says yeah.

In the future remember one simple rule: Go for ONE date at a time.

If the topic comes up in a conversation (let's suppose 'I love mexican food'), save it on your mind as a possible date in the future, but DON'T ask her out.

Interest and infatuation grows on the balance between HOPE and DOUBT. Let her wonder for a few days after a date if you enjoyed the date or not. It will only make things easier.

 

[Will6]

Tafanka, there was no first date, we were both at the bar with friends, I pulled her aside and asked her there. So the weekend is when that date should of occurred.

And alwayslead8821, I agreed with Igetitt too and used his advice. That was about the first post. the updated post had the most recent info of what happened and I dont think I gave her any control there. Unless asking the next night if she was getting better was a problem.