"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What to do when you're not physically attracted to someone

JustWuzzle

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I went out with a chick I met on Pof today She was super cool. She had some very good features nice really freakin smart. She's just not the best looking, I like her but don't want to get nothing started I can't finish.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PapiChulo

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Friendzone the b!tch as you were hb9.5.
 

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JustWuzzle said:
but don't want to get nothing started I can't finish.
? What do you mean by that.

Either:

1) don't bang her, no contact
2) don't bang her, friendzone
3) bang her, then no contact
4) bang her, then friendzone
5) bang her, then relationship

This ain't rocket science, kid.
 

JustWuzzle

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I meant bout to bang her no Hard on. I'm gonna hang out with her some more cause she's cool thinking bout keep us friends though
 

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Not a big deal. So you don't like her like that. Keep emailing other chicks and let her know you want to be friends. If she doesn't like it...Move on. No big deal.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you're just really attracted to her personality and nothing more, that's the start of a great friendship right there! And I think you should keep it that way.
 

JustWuzzle

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jakeyboy said:
If you're just really attracted to her personality and nothing more, that's the start of a great friendship right there! And I think you should keep it that way.
Maybe we still talk she's more stable then a lot of girls her age. I know her brother so maybe I could branch out plus she invited me to bible study.
 
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