"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to do when your Wing gets greedy?

flint

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Hey guys just had an interesting question. Last night me and a buddy of mine from long ago went out approaching (yes on a sunday haha). Anyways this guy is actually a great wing because even though he's not well read on this stuff, he naturally takes on barriers and talks you up to all the people around.

Long story short though last night at one point we're at this little bar and I'm talking to this HB 7, and everything is going good (getting longs of eye contact, smiling, playing with hair, etc). But eventually my wing decides to come over and throw his own name into the hat, and ends up asking her if she wanted to chill after before I could get her number or ask the same. From then on somehow he just sort of targeted my HB even though I approached the set and opened everyone.

But my question in the end is what do you do when your wing starts to go after your set instead of support you? Should you just find a new wing if they're always greedy, and how do you make it so you don't lose the set to him?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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FreD_BeaR

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You tell him. You don't accept that kind of behaviour or disrespect, especially from someone who is supposed to be a long time friend. You tell him that wasn't cool and that he over stepped his boundaries. but you do it in the right mannor. dont be a douche about it. Do it in a semi serious joking way, that he knows you mean it but are being friendly about it. Be like "hey, the other night when we were wheelin. I had this HB7 in the bag. then you came over and under wheeled me you fvcker lol. I dont know if it was intentional, but it was pretty not cool of you. Were supposed to be helping each other out, not competing. "

At the same time, if you could tell he was doing it on purpose,you could have turned the tables on him when he came over and tried to steal the kill. Jokingly made fun of him in front of the girl. But since its over and done with, tell him that was stupid of him, and not to do it again. I have a friend who has done this in the past, but he is scared of women now, either that or gay.

This guy may be a good wing, but when it comes down to it for him, is he good at pickin up chicks, or just helping you pick them up?
 

flint

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Hey good point fred. No the problem with him in the end is he's an excellent wing man, but when push comes to shove he'll be selfish and go for it himself rather than wait his turn and be a team player. I mean even last night we're talking I opened the set, I did all of the work essentially, I'm getting massive IOI's, and then he comes in and tries to make an interception.
 

FreD_BeaR

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Yeah that is deffiantely a problem. Tell him that. Thats the only way he'll know its not cool, and you wont tolerate it. He may be oblvious to it, and may not realize it. Or maybe hes just a d1ck and thinks youre a pvssy and wont stand up for yourself. I dont know, but in any regard, just casually bring it up, and let him know you are serious about it. If he really is your friend, he will acknowledge it, be cool about it, probably appologize and try not to do it again.
 

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Start looking for a new wing. If this one isn't going to change,you move on[just like women]
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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