Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What to do when you made the mistake....

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Been with girl for three months. Past couple weeks have been rocky. She called it off once, then we got back together. I tried to break it off after that and she honestly blow up my phone ridiculously till I answered. She told me a bunch of stuff I wanted to hear and we had a perfect week. But the other day I honestly had the most miserable day of my life, I got retarded drunk and texted her a bunch of BS about never talking to me again why are you out at the bars right now, blah blah. I was totallt wrong. But then my week got even more worse and I just needed her around but she was pissed. I called her thursday and friday she answered both times but she needed "time" after the other night. I told her I really wanted to see her that Friday and she refused. I showed up at the bar she was at and acted a little crazy, she wasn't having it. Next day I pretty much told her we were done, changed my number and explained some things to her friend.

We hung out A LOT during three months, but I never have acted that way before with her or anyone else. I have had lots of girlfriends but that week was just so miserable with work and family.

I know her and her firends probably think I am crazy. I do love her, and really dont want to hear about spinning more plates because we were great, and I f'ed up. I'm fighting off every urge to contact her. I didn't want to be done, I wasnt acting right. Thing is even if she answered the phone (my number is different) what in the hell would I say..........
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Supercoolguy33 said:
I'm a wreck right now....jesus I'm a girl
Yes, that was my thought after reading the first post. You are the woman in this relationship, seem to have a need to cause a ton of unnecessary drama whilst blaming it on "having a bad week" etc. You should be embarrassed!
 

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Tesl said:
Yes, that was my thought after reading the first post. You are the woman in this relationship, seem to have a need to cause a ton of unnecessary drama whilst blaming it on "having a bad week" etc. You should be embarrassed!
Although your reason may be a bit off....I am surely completly embarrased
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You're not listening....
Stop apologizing, talking about your feelings, and selling yourself short. Be an alphamale. Stake your ground, dont be ashamed, and start forcing yourself to be more quiet and confident.

Is King Kong embarrassed about anything? I know he was a bit afc since he chased after Fay Wray/Jessica Lange... but he didn't talk about his feelings, he showed them.

Shoulders back, chest out, good posture, head up. Go to the gym, get that testosterone cranking.

Dress good, look and smell good. Then you will FEEL good.

Show no fear, show less emotions, have pride and smile confidently. Fake it, until you make it... your new personna.
 

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We talked today. It felt great just to clear the air and at least leave on a positive conversation. Now the NC really starts I think. I want her back so bad but I know only time will do that (maybe).
 

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terran2k said:
you'll be back with her
I sure as $hit hope so. Now is the time I have to show her I can actually give her time and space. I think if I still feel the same way I will reach out in about 3 weeks.
 
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