"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What to do when you get "mushy"?

The Accountant

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Went to eat and see a play this weekend, a friend wanted to come along so I let her. I think she's hot but I've never really cared for her. She's been begging for my attention for months, but after going out, talking and seeing a play I'm now "mushy" about her. Starting to think she's amazing and feeling like she's girlfriend material. This is the point where I tend to let my emotions get the best of me, and I'm trying to prevent that.

So what do you guys do when this happens? Pulling NC atm but for more reasons than just getting mushy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RangerMIke

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Date around... never focus on one chick. You get like this when you have limited options, until SHE brings up a 'relationship' you are a free agent. If you lock into one chick before she is in love with you then you are screwed. You have to control your emotions, never fall for a chick until she falls for you first.

Doc Love is a relationship guy, not me, but his advice on dudes looking for relationships is that the chick has to ask for it, if she doesn't then you just keep dating women. This IMO is good advice.
 

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Get your mind focused on your mission.
 

djthiago1

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Easy, keep your mouth shut. The second a girl likes you, you never talk again.

If your mouth is making you sin, cut your tongue off.


Date around... never focus on one chick. You get like this when you have limited options, until SHE brings up a 'relationship' you are a free agent. If you lock into one chick before she is in love with you then you are screwed. You have to control your emotions, never fall for a chick until she falls for you first.

Doc Love is a relationship guy, not me, but his advice on dudes looking for relationships is that the chick has to ask for it, if she doesn't then you just keep dating women. This IMO is good advice.
I'm Doc Love's number 1 follower, matter of fact, i'm listen to one of his radio shows right now. The rule is: SHE has to ask if you're seeing anybody else, or "where is this going?", or something similar; and THEN you can proceed to: "why? do you wanna be my girlfriend?", "What do you mean, do you wanna be exclusive?" or some variation.
 

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I'm Doc Love's number 1 follower, matter of fact, i'm listen to one of his radio shows right now. The rule is: SHE has to ask if you're seeing anybody else, or "where is this going?", or something similar; and THEN you can proceed to: "why? do you wanna be my girlfriend?", "What do you mean, do you wanna be exclusive?" or some variation.
Yea I agree all the relationship PUA BS that is out there is worthless. The ones that make sense all borrow heavily from Doc Love. Cory Wayne is just a boring @ss version of Doc Love with cursing and sex talk. Every boy should be given a copy of "The System" and required to read it when they turn 13. I've not scene any of Doc Love's other books, and didn't know he had a radio show, I'll check that out, but I used to have his book "The System" I've read his articles on AskMen.

Doc Love writes FOR MEN, he's funny and he gets to the point. Cory Wayne is a fvcking pvssy, who shaves his head and curses to make himself sound tough. But if you just listen to Wayne, Jesus... it's like listing to a chick blabbing on and on about relationships.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yea I agree all the relationship PUA BS that is out there is worthless. The ones that make sense all borrow heavily from Doc Love. Cory Wayne is just a boring @ss version of Doc Love with cursing and sex talk. Every boy should be given a copy of "The System" and required to read it when they turn 13. I've not scene any of Doc Love's other books, and didn't know he had a radio show, I'll check that out, but I used to have his book "The System" I've read his articles on AskMen.

Doc Love writes FOR MEN, he's funny and he gets to the point. Cory Wayne is a fvcking pvssy, who shaves his head and curses to make himself sound tough. But if you just listen to Wayne, Jesus... it's like listing to a chick blabbing on and on about relationships.
I can't stand Corey, all that swearing just screams "no class" for me.
Doc Love has been doing a 1 hour radio show every single week since 2006, so that's 12 years of consistent weekly show where he answers real life questions from everyone that calls, you have no idea how much you're missing on.
I'll be honest, i'm broke, so i pirated all his stuff, but if i had the cash; i'd donate him 100 thousand dollars in a heartbeat.
 

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You’ll have to do more than just not talk about a relationship. You’ll have to watch how you act too. I recently got busted being too affectionate, got FZ. It was “going too fast”.
 

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You're 17 correct?

My advice: eat clean, hit the gym, make money. Get out there and enjoy as many women as you can physically handle.

Let THEM try to catch you.
I've got the money part covered, and I eat healthy, but yeah I should hit the gym. I've got the face but don't weigh enough.

I don't really enjoy having a bunch of women tbh. It's just not interesting to me. I tend to gravitate to one for two months or so then move to the next when I realize they're full of sh1t. But that's a habit I'm trying to break. Like I said, this specific girl has been begging for my attention for months but is in a 1 year relationship with someone I know so I've pretty much avoided her until now. Oh and she thinks she's a lesbian now bisexual so way too much baggage for me to deal with.

She's so forward with wanting my attention and has been consistent for so long that I almost feel like I need to do something. I think her relationship has turned to a friendship and I'm just a sex object. So in short she is trying to catch me. But anything with her would, and kind of already has because of us getting dinner, turned into a sh1t storm.

I just want some simple girls to learn from but all of the attractive ones are taken or have red flags that I want to stay away from. I think I'll see about meeting some girls outside of where I usually hang.
 
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