What to do when you get into a dating slump?

[Maeisgood]

Does anyone ever feel that they were cooler in the past and don't know what they're now doing wrong? The girls I had in high school were much better looking than the ones I had an opportunity with in college; however, in college I finally got to do a couple of them. 2006 was a good year for the most part for me.

I've made lots of friends at college, but many of them no longer go here or live off campus. Its a very small college and I don't want to join a fraternity, especially this late in my college career. I've never been able to really became a part of any one group.

How do I graft myself onto a long-established group? I have some cool friends here, but half of them left school and the other half is about to graduate because they're older than me. Soon I'll be friendless. In order to get girls, we must have social value, but soon I'll have none!

 

[kingwilliam]

How old are you? How much longer do you have in school? Join a fraternity...I actually met some really good friends in college as a result of my fraternity.....and I got more poon than I ever thought possible......literally dozens of beautiful women.

 

[kingwilliam]

oooops..........double post somehow

 

[everywomanshero]

Relating to my own experience, there is different levels of this game. You can't simply hop from level one to 10, it's something that must be experienced and felt personally.

At this stage, I think you're output is too low. You should be getting at least 12 new phone numbers per week, preferably more. That will keep your rotation high, so you can get more experience fast. I would simply ramp up the output for now and make sure you try to close every set that's hot and somewhat interesting.

 

[Maeisgood]

I'm a junior right now. The reason I don't want to rush is I don't think I could do something like drink another man's piss or suck his **** (I'm exagerating here) just to get into a club. I couldn't brand myself as being in one group or another. I think it'd be wiser to just befriend brothers in different frats and go to their parties. In high school, I had lots of friends in all groups. I'm sort of shy, but once people know me they almost always like me. It just takes me time. I'm also not one for superficial friendships. I think if I just become more outgoing, and set aside more time to hang out with people I can replace the lost friends.

I've never had a drunken hook-up either. I almost view it as a form of rape. I'd rather be honorable about it all and only hook-up sober. From what people say to me, it seems they could respect me for that, unless they're just saying I'm an AFC in a nice way, I don't know. I don't want any entangements with girls I'm not truly interested in. I'm terrified of getting a chick pregnant or an STD from one. In one of my first times having sex I broke a condom and flipped out, but nothing happened, thank God!

Is it better to forgo the opportunity to hook-up (even when sober) to wait for a really cool girl and keep things less complicated, or is it better to gain the experience and just strike when the vagina is hot?

I feel like when I'm old I'll kick myself everytime a hottie walks by and its past my time, especially when I think back to girls I had chances with.