"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What to do when u see a Match chick in real life?

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Today, I discovered that a girl that I was gaming on Match works in the same building as I do. I was scared ****less and didnt know how to act. Fortunately, I only saw her at a distance so I dont think she saw me also. Unfortunately, things are not so great between me and her as she hadnt been replying to my emails for 2 weeks now. So, I am not sure what she would make of it if I suddenly appeared in front of her face. The chances of us running into each other again is high as we share the hallways and cafeteria of our building. I need help badly in this, how can I make the interaction less awkward?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Try to get the e-mail conversation going again. Casually bring up that you're stressed out at work, mention the place where you work at. if that's the chick she'll say "Hey I work there too!". It might work in your favor since chicks love signs of "fate." Say you should meet up from lunch and take it from there.
 
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I would have done exactly what you said but its more complicated than this. This is actually my 2nd sighting of her. I once spotted her at the supermarket and called her on it in an email. Unfortunately, it didnt lead us to arranging any meeting after that. We fluffed bit by bit and ultimately she stopped responding. The mere mention that I saw her again at work will make me seem like I am stalking her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So I mustered up some courage to call her on working in the same building as me to which she responded and I suggested we meet up for lunch someday. Here's what she responded:

"That sounds good. Maybe next week - I have a full schedule and I'm taking a long weekend - I'll email you next week. Have a great weekend! Any big plans? Same old for me...heading to the [family town] in a bit.

See you soon!!
[HBMatch]"

Obviously, this came out on Friday. I need your help guys, do you think I should respond to this or wait for her confirmation? and yes I need some pointers on how to act when we meet because I never done this before ie meet a girl I met online in real life for the first time.
 
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Just send a quick response to tell her "looks like a plan, enjoy the weekend," and wait for her email.

If I were to run into an online prospect in real life, I'd probably say something like "Ha! If it isn't (start to say screen name) ... ahem ... (real name)," and have a little chat with her.

Finding someone you recognize from real life on a dating site is a different thing. I've found it's best to just "gather intelligence," so to speak, from their profile, and leave the contact to real life.
 
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That email is golden. She fvcking bored in her life: "Any big plans?" "Same old for me".

When you go to the lunch, propose something fun. It could even be something fun you're doing with your friends. Don't go crazy, no airballoon rides, or trips to fvcking mars. Something simple but fun.
 
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My gut tells me that she isn't interested. I don't know why you didn't approach her when you saw her, it was a perfect situation to start a conversation with her. There's the chance that she thought it was a little creepy that you recognized her in public, didn't say anything to her and decided to "call her on it" via email.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Maybe Obsidian is right cuz 5 days have passed and havent heard back from her. I know its silly to think so but could it be that I should have replied to that mail? i realize I am banging my head against the wall with this one, its just that i cant get myself to get interested in other women be it match or even real life.
 
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she flaked from the beginning. you can tell in her email, it's just so cold and distant.
 
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