What to do when she says you have a crush on her ?

[josh1]

Hello.

So there's this lady I know, we are very close, and I pulled the DJ techniques on her, so I know she was hooked.

One day, she starts talking about other males she knew, and complains how they all fawned upon her and told her how much they love her, but as for me, she said, she knows I have a crush on her, but I'm different.

Now you have to realize I never told her anything about my emotions toward her, so this was definitely a TEST.


What in your opinion is the BEST way to reply to this test ?


If you don't reply, she will think that you're afraid/shy/not interested, and if you do, you risk revealing yourself and going into the stage where you have to discuss how you feel about her, and I KNOW this is not good.

Opinions, fellow Dj's ?

Thank you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Steal her frame. Tell her that she has the crush on you, and she is just accusing you to cover up her own feelings. Laugh at her little game.

 

[josh1]

Hello Bible_Belt

Thanks for answering me.

I think that's a good strategy you offered, but what if she just asks me again ? or worse, accuse me of trying to avoid the question ?

I think we need a backup plan.

Thanks again.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You have to stick with your story. If she asks you again, ask her to stop going on and on about this crush she has for you. She is the one trying to avoid the question by cooking up this crush story about you. Then laugh and go on like it is no big deal. If she says that she does not have a crush on you, say "Liar!" and smile and laugh.

 

[arutha]

'Ha, you wish!'
'In your dreams'
'Keep telling yourself that' (sly smile)
(Depending on your age) 'What do you think this is, high school?!?'

 

[ShizamDaMan]

arutha and Bible_Belt are 100% correct. Turn it around on her and watch the sparks of lust fly

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
Steal her frame. Tell her that she has the crush on you, and she is just accusing you to cover up her own feelings. Laugh at her little game.

Good reframing advice from Bible_Belt.

Maximus_Decimus

 

[josh1]

Thank you all for your replies, great strategies.


I liked "You wish!" & "Keep telling yourself that", and of course Bible_Belt's little trick

Thanks.

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by josh1
Thank you all for your replies, great strategies.


I liked "You wish!" & "Keep telling yourself that", and of course Bible_Belt's little trick

Thanks.

Josh1, Bible_Belt's suggestion is an example of reframing. When you understand reframing, you will be able to come up with your own responses and examples that you are more comfortable with.

You may want to do a search on reframing. I also suggest you get a copy of Swinggcat's e-book, titled Real World Seduction as it contains a very good read on reframing. David Deangelo also has some implicit reframing in his material as well.

Maximus_Decimus

 

[RoeCyris]

ya know what, fcuk the games.

If your so worried about answering the question, dont. Just ask her out.

Some things are tests and some things are invitations. If you cant tell the difference assume everything is an invitation so at least you can say u tried.