What to do when she ignores you??

[FrankWank]

So i met this girl at the gym, and she's an attention *****. All these guys worship her and put her on her thrown. I knocked her off with a few negative hits. She's been touchy feely with me as if she was my girlfriend. I been ignoring her for the fact, that she disrespects me when she's talking to me by walking away while were talking, to go talk to some other guy. I have ignored her completely for the past 3 days, and now she is doing the same thing to me. I'll catch her looking, and when she walks by she wont even look at me?

What do i do in this situation since both of us are ignoring each other?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Never respond to disrespect - leave the gym ho alone - your attention is only giving her hor strength!!!

She talks to another dude while you are talking to her - grave disrespect - don't give the hor attention!!!

 

[chuchu]

I'll forget about her.


Find another girl.

 

[duttylove]

you said it your self, she is an AW why do you even waste your time talking to her

 

[xblitz44x]

Instead of starting off with "negative hits" I would have treated her normally; just like a regular girl. By going out of your way to treat her differently than you would any other girl, you are NO better than the guys who put her on a t-h-r-o-n-e.

At this point the games have started and somebody is going to have to sit their ego out of the play for a second if you expect anything to happen. You, being such a "DJ" should have no problem doing this. Get into a regular conversation, ask her out. Easy, simple. If she turns you down, you know you were the better person and put the games aside and handled the situation like a mature adult.

-Blitz

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Actually, the fact that he was able to recognise this woman for the attention hor that she is, in itself, is a sign that he used his DJ skills correctly.

Carry on ignoring the douchebag, or if you ask her out, remember that the power will be back in her hands and you will have to out play her.

It's your choice, I would ignore her until she cracked and asked me out.

 

[xblitz44x]

"Carry on ignoring the douchebag, or if you ask her out, remember that the power will be back in her hands and you will have to out play her."

Which "power"? Does it always have to be a power struggle? An interaction should be something you do WITH another person, not to or against them. He f*cked up to begin with by *assuming* she's an attention wh0re simply because guys worship her. It doesn't mean she asks for it, or that she enjoys it, or that she wh0res herself because of it. So immediately he "negged" her for no reason other than guys give her attention.

Then, he got upset because she walked away when they were talking. I'd like more details on that because I'm sure there is more to the story than that. And finally, HE ignored her and wonders why she's not going out of her way to talk to him.

He started the entire relationship with her by being under the false impression that some power struggle is taking place simply because she's pretty. The entire basis of his misperception is based upon the fact that the entire time he felt like she was in "control" of him just because she was hot. To him, hot = perfection and therefore felt inadaquete and had to "level the playing field" in his own mind with a neg and ignoring her, so that he could cope with this.

The entire game was in his head.

So he can sit around and take your advice to wait until she asks him out; or he can tuck his ego aside for a second and be a mature adult and take a shot. He has nothing to lose.

-Blitz

 

[FrankWank]

This morning on friday, after the ignoring at the gym. She waved and smiled at me while i was running on the treadmill. I smiled and waved as well, but nothing was said as she was working out with her friend. Again, i caught her looking at me serveral times!

What are u talking about starting a relationship with her from the start??

An attention ***** is easily noticed, by the fact that she walks around flaunting her stuff approaching and being approached by numerous guys = attention *****. She laughs loud and wears tight workout clothes to show her curves. She gets approval from the other guys, but has yet to get it from me. Why should i easily cave in and chase her like the other guys????

Your suppose to attract women, not chase!
Women, are like cats.......if you chase a cat, what does it do? RUN

If you put a cat in a room of 5 people, and 1 person is not paying attetion, who will the cat approach?? The 1 person

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by FrankWank

Women, are like cats.......

'Cept you can't kick 'em across the room when they p!ss you off.

Don't pay any mind to her little crusade. Fact is, you know she wants to be with you and you know she's just playing games...just accept the test and keep rolling. Return the smiles and stuff...talk to some other girls if you can. Get the jealousy into play. "You know, you can play these little games with me the same as the other guys, but if you do, I'm just going to take home Melissa over here, or maybe Katie, that cute redhead on the treadmill...your call."

 

[Skullcrusher]

Yeah she's an AW, but it's your fault for sucking into it.

 

[xblitz44x]

"What are u talking about starting a relationship with her from the start??"

For you commitment-phobes out there, relax. By relationship I mean the relationship that you have with her from the second you made eye contact. We have relationships with our friends, parents, siblings, etc. I didn't mean it in the love, attached sense.

"An attention ***** is easily noticed, by the fact that she walks around flaunting her stuff approaching and being approached by numerous guys = attention *****. She laughs loud and wears tight workout clothes to show her curves."

So since she talks to people (which is exactly what YOU want to do), and people talk to her, she must be an attention wh0re? Maybe she wears tight workout clothes because they are comfortable. You're assuming too much and reacting according to your assumptions. The next time you go to the gym, look around at the other women who are wearing tight clothes that you didn't notice before. Are they ALL attention wh0res because they wear workout clothes? Is she an attention wh0re because she laughs loud?

Typically AWs are girls who dance on bars and who hook up with other girls for attention; not girls who wear workout clothes to the gym, and who laugh loud.

"She gets approval from the other guys, but has yet to get it from me. Why should i easily cave in and chase her like the other guys????"

This is what I'm talking about; why do you feel like you'd be "caving" by talking to her? Does it make you better than the other guys because you've intentionally ignored your own urges and tried to fool yourself into thinking that she doesn't compell you and fvck you up inside just as bad as she fvcks the other guys up? Here, I'll answer for you. It doesn't make you any better.

In fact, it's weak. If you were truly a "DJ" and weren't scared of girls, you'd approach her, you'd talk to her, and you'd ask her out. You wouldn't give a damn about other guys, or the stupid power struggle that you've created in your head that dictates your every move.

"Your suppose to attract women, not chase!"

Nobody said chase. I said cut the cat and mouse games, put your ego aside, step up and ask her out.

-Blitz

 

[Albion4]

Sexual tension man... Bust her balls, make her laugh...

You: "If we keep ignoring each other like this you'll never get to have multiple screaming orgasms at my place."

Her: "What makes you think I'll ever sleep with you?"

You: "(with a slight look of disgust) Who said anything about sleeping together? (With a sly grin) I've got this washing maching you see..."

She gets approval from the other guys, but has yet to get it from me. Why should i easily cave in and chase her like the other guys????

This is where the other guys fail and you succeede!!!!! <--- Notice the Exclimation points there? Humans are status machines. From early on we rank ourselves in hiearchies of status. Those people with lower status always seek the approval of those with higher status. It's a binding mechanism. What these guys are doing is allowing this girl to be at their status level. What fun is this? What's she going to do next? She's going to move on to the next group of guys she can seek an even higher rank from.

Instead you need to make her seek your approval. Make her want your status level but don't give it to her. Let her climb a few steps then knock her back down. But do it in a funny way. You're problem is that you're denying her that approval by ignoring her. You're saying "Sorry, you're not good enough for me!" But, if you make fun of her in a funny way and keep doing it every once in a while, you're saying, "I like you enough to keep talking to you and making you laugh." See how this is challenging for her? As they say, challenge is the key.

And lastly, never, I MEAN NEVER, say, "I was just kidding" or "I was just joking"

-Al

 

[KinkyMan]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
"Carry on ignoring the douchebag, or if you ask her out, remember that the power will be back in her hands and you will have to out play her."

Which "power"? Does it always have to be a power struggle? An interaction should be something you do WITH another person, not to or against them. He f*cked up to begin with by *assuming* she's an attention wh0re simply because guys worship her. It doesn't mean she asks for it, or that she enjoys it, or that she wh0res herself because of it. So immediately he "negged" her for no reason other than guys give her attention.

Then, he got upset because she walked away when they were talking. I'd like more details on that because I'm sure there is more to the story than that. And finally, HE ignored her and wonders why she's not going out of her way to talk to him.

He started the entire relationship with her by being under the false impression that some power struggle is taking place simply because she's pretty. The entire basis of his misperception is based upon the fact that the entire time he felt like she was in "control" of him just because she was hot. To him, hot = perfection and therefore felt inadaquete and had to "level the playing field" in his own mind with a neg and ignoring her, so that he could cope with this.

The entire game was in his head.

So he can sit around and take your advice to wait until she asks him out; or he can tuck his ego aside for a second and be a mature adult and take a shot. He has nothing to lose.

-Blitz

somebody i agree with

 

[FrankWank]

Wrong xblitz44x

Your jumping to conclusions! I did not say i got upset when she left during convo. I just smirked at her, and i carried on
I have approached her a few times, but not every single time i see her. I do tease her and initiate convo with her when i do approach her. She'll then leave the convo and go talk to someone else, which is the reason i have not asked her out yet. Heck its only been 2 weeks since i first met her

any chic that goes to the gym wearing tight clothes approaching guys, tossing her hair, laughing loud..to begin with, she's not even working out. Wears make up etc.... What is she then????? She's an AW

To me the main thing is to be different. Why be like every other guy. What your describing is what every single does. Any guy that approaches a chic and jocks her with compliments etc every single time he sees her....is already serving her putting her on a pedestal, therefore stroking her ego. She now has so much power over these guys, more like servants. Now she thinks her sh!t dont stink. These type of women need to be knocked off her pedestal with negs, which is what i did, and its working. A woman should work for a mans approval. Any guy that just gives it to her is an idiot


The whole purpose of this message board is to teach how to ATTRACT women meaning, making them come to you. FYI......its actually working, since she did not ignore me this morning

perfect thread!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=60358

 

[kapz]

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[Francisco d'Anconia]

Make out with her sister (as long as she's legal).