What to do when lack of success is making you doubt your attractiveness?

[alx]

I think I'm attractive but I can't seem to find many people to agree with me. It's kind of disheartening.


What actually makes a man hot? It seems in order for a man to be considered attractive to the "average" woman, he has to be kind of gay looking or at least metrosexual or some kind of hipster idiot. And I'm not even sure why?

 

[Tictac]

"When you are going through Hell, keep going!"

Winston Churchill


And oh, buy the way - the answer is CONFIDENCE.

 

[alx]

Sure that's great but everyone loves knocking the confidence back out of me and nobody ever wants to help me build it up again.

 

[Tictac]

Sure that's great but everyone loves knocking the confidence back out of me and nobody ever wants to help me build it up again.

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That's YOUR job sport. If you don't give a sh*t no one else will.

Stop waiting for your mommy.

 

[Alvafe]

Sure that's great but everyone loves knocking the confidence back out of me and nobody ever wants to help me build it up again.

simple stop caring, people will do things to **** with you and not let you get success on anything, they don't have it and want everyone else be like then, "no one can be better then me", that is the mentality you have to fight against, if you ever read about people are born good and turned evil, forget that its a lie, everyone is selfish, everyone only care about thenself, and if you want success about anything you will need to try over and over even when people even your family says you should gave up

 

[Who Dares Win]

So can you make it more clear? you try to approach girls but you dont get good feedbacks or its a general problem?

If its the first case welcome to the club, it works like this for 80% of the men...thats why we need to be successful, well built, rich, get a high status and so on.

Confidence? sure as if you could buy it at the supermarket or have it with no foundation as financial products...suggesting to be more confident to someone which loses everyday its like suggesting an unemployed man to "be more rich".

 

[alx]

They only time women are flirty and receptive with me is when they seem to be gaming me for some kind of kick. Everyone else looks at me like I'm dodgy or something.

 

[Suspens]

Lose fat, build muscles. Plastic surgery would help as well.

 

[guru1000]

Why not give the reader a bit of context here.

Post a pic. Or ... What is missing: facial aesthetics, physique, skin, teeth, height? What exactly.

A man can add up to 4 pts to his SMV; some even more dependent upon the extent of the deficiency. Be specific if you want genuine help.

Another pivotal note: It doesn't matter how attractive you are, if you put yourself out there, you will experience rejection. ALL part of the "game." The sooner you accept this, the sooner you evolve.

 

[KingBeef]

Why not give the reader a bit of context here.

Post a pic. Or ... What is missing: facial aesthetics, physique, skin, teeth, height? What exactly.

A man can add up to 4 pts to his SMV; some even more dependent upon the extent of the deficiency. Be specific if you want genuine help.

Another pivotal note: It doesn't matter how attractive you are, if you put yourself out there, you will experience rejection. ALL part of the "game." The sooner you accept this, the sooner you evolve.

^^THIS.. Make a list of your strong and weak points (physical attributes, game, honest feedback, etc.) Create a point system if you must.

You STRENGTHEN your positive qualities to the point they are rock solid and unshakable.

On the WEAK (challenging) points, you have to do your homework/research first (do it thoroughly) and then work on them to the point they no longer become an issue...THIS IS KEY. It may take a lot of painstaking work (YOU HAVE TO PUT IN THE WORK, NO MATTER WHAT YOUR FEARS/HANGUPS ARE...YOU HAVE TO "TRULY" ATTACK THESE ISSUES AT THEIR CORE AND IT WILL PROBABLY BE PAINFUL AT FIRST). You'd be surprised how much change you can make, even turn a negative into a positive.

After 3 months, reassess. Have you maximized/strengthened your positive points to where no one can 'touch you", all they do is compliment you? Weak points...have you made any positive gains? Have you taken any of them and made them positive? If not, were you able to "neutralize them?"

MAXIMIZE YOUR STRENGTHS, MINIMIZE YOUR WEAKNESSES....

Women can be very critical and superficial at times.... When you have your sh!t together, they will gawk, stare, scan you up and down (assess what you have to offer them) and "magically" make themselves available to you.

 

[Poon King]

All women care about is what you can do for them and their goals. Good looking women and even average women usually want to have attractive kids, so they will try to f*ck attractive guys.

If a guy is not attractive, he must then offer something unique that the woman can take advantage of such as money, connections, protection, resources, status, etc.

With information technology such a big part of today's culture, women are increasingly shallow and focused on how good of an accessory a man is to their carefully crafted "image". The man a woman dates is a reflection of her own status. She keeps this in mind.

When it comes to random hook-ups the rules are different. Women go for men who make them wet, but are not necessarily the most practical choices for dating.

When women interact with men, they are primarily focused on how they can utilize that man in some way for their own goals. All women do this. Which is why sometimes I get rejected by average women, yet a HB8 will f*ck me easily.

So in summery.. to be attractive to women you either have to make them wet or be a practical addition to their lives.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I've always had an attractive face; it wasn't until I learned game, gained confidence and changed my style that I started seeing success with women however.

Physical appearance is probably only half of it. Your mentality/body language is the other half. And half of the physical appearance is style/hair/physique etc. 75% of what makes you attractive, you pretty much can change and have control over. Don't fret, OP. If you think you're attractive, you are.

 

[skinnyguy]

Just use beta buck game, that will compensate for lack of attractiveness

 

[ubercat]

If u really want an objective assessment plenty of sites like 'hot or not' where u can post pics. B careful obviously things stay on the net for a long time. I d follow rulers advice and hit the weights and cardio first particularly swimming. As its easier to post and get physique judged. Also much less likely to b depressed if your active.

 

[Tenacity]

I think I'm attractive but I can't seem to find many people to agree with me. It's kind of disheartening.


What actually makes a man hot? It seems in order for a man to be considered attractive to the "average" woman, he has to be kind of gay looking or at least metrosexual or some kind of hipster idiot. And I'm not even sure why?

Post a picture and let's see how you look, then suggestions can be offered.