"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What to do when Kino hits a barrier??

Pugnacio

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OK So I've known this girl for over a year now (LVL 9.5) and it was pretty clear we both liked each other (cuz she's told me) but she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend so nothing was going to happen. So I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago and she finally just broke up with her boyfriend (or on a break whatever the fck that means) and the first thing she tells me is that she just wants to be friends. Now, I'm not retarded and I can read a girls body language pretty well and hers is saying that she still wants me yet she says this "friends" BS. When she told me she just wanted to be friends I responded pretty well I think by saying "are you kidding? that ship has sailed sweety" and I've even told her I've been seeing someone else and she seems pretty jealous by this. So I saw her tonight and I started using a lot of kino and joking around and at first she was a kinda into it but as soon as I progressed into anything more serious then a couple second pat (like holding her side ect.) she would pull away. I think a lot to do with it is A. she has never done ANYTHING with any guy except form her ex-boyfriend and B. she was molested as a child and is really weird with the guys she likes (she says "I hate you" instead of "i like you" and hits them ect.). THERE HAS TO BE SOME WAY TO DEAL WITH SEXUAL ABUSE VICTEMS...ANY SUGGESTIONS?

Thank you for your time,
Tim D.:nervous:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Pugnacio said:
THERE HAS TO BE SOME WAY TO DEAL WITH SEXUAL ABUSE VICTEMS...ANY SUGGESTIONS?

The onlything to do with a sexualy abused victim is to either stay away or accept her f'ed sexual behavior.

Maybe you have enough patience to accept it but don't think you can do anything about it. Encourage her to seek help but until she wants to then don't waste your time.
 

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You have known her for a year and she is telling you she just wants to be friends. Thats called the friendzone. She likes you like her brother.

She pulls away when you kino her - that also means she isn't interested.

You first need to de-establish this 1 year friendship. Good luck with that. And she is mentally screwed up - again have fun with that.

My only advice is expect drama.
 
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