"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What to do when I'm talking to women who are 15 feet away or are busy?

DJDeMarco

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Lately, when I talk to women, they're out in public being busy. I'm trying to figure out what to do when I'm talking to a woman that is either
A.15-20 feet away (Stay where I'm at or get closer?)
B. They're going back to their activity (Keep talking or just leave it alone)
C. They're walking away(I'm not following).

These situations are confusing to me. I'm trying to let the girl know I want to talk with her without being desperate or needy.

Today I ran into the situation where all 3 things happened. I saw a cute girl with a friend I wanted to talk to. So I walked over to the aisle she was at. She was moving in my direction so I said "Hey, how's it going?" She answered back and seemed receptive. She moved about 15-20 feet away, stopped for a moment,and I stayed where I was at. I let there be a silence at some point, a good time for her to ask me something. Then she said she'd talk to me later.

I want to figure out what to do, especially since this is the only way I can meet women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bigneil

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A really confident move is the wave them over from across the room, or curl your finger towards yourself. If they jump at the motion it proves they were watching you, and you are in like Flynn.
 

Alexandar

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I love the wave her over move.

You dont have to be so worried about not seeming desperate. standing 20 feet away, leaving silences on purposes, it just makes it. more awekward.

just pretend shes an old friend, dont be afraid to walk with her a bit, engage her, even grab her hand and lead her for a walk/minidate if shes being receptive.
 

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Approaching women in groups is USUALLY a waste of time unless you have wingman support. As you probably already know.. most women are "group thinkers" and so they lose the ability to have their own brain when friends and family are around.

Its best to approach isolated women or women you can find a way to isolate. Otherwise the odds are pretty crappy UNLESS you are approaching the alpha female of the group. Then the other girls won't matter.
 

mangotot

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If a woman is 15 feet away you get over to her double quick and approach. The only time you should not walk or run is when you have approached and the woman walks away. In which case stay where you are and continue chatting. Hopefully she'll stop or walk back over to you to continue conversation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJDeMarco

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Thanks everyone. I like the move to motion them over, I'll try it. I'll feel more confident in these situations now. In Like Errol Flynn. :)

Poon King: I try to focus on women in 2-3 group sets if they're not by themselves. Anything more and it'd be tough.
 
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