what to do when girlfriend has ex bf's numbers on mobile

[ShockDoctor]

Hi Guys!

I know this is probably real stupid question, but I gotta ask, I don't know what to do???

I was playing around with my girlfriends mobile phone the other night and looked in her 'INBOX' and saw a few msgs from her friends and a couple from her past boyfriends, I didn't read the message coz I quickly exited out, but should I ask her why she's got messages from old bf's still stored and risk losing her or not say anything at all and just be patient and see if any other msgs are sent to her?

thanks for any help in advance but I'm really stressing over this!!

 

[Don_Joffe]

I notice by your posts that its your first. I recommend reading through the sosuave website and then the bible and the other links that follow and your question will be answered because your question is of an major "AFC" level. To answer your question.
1. Dont confront her
2. She is ALLOWED to have her past boyfriends as friends
3. She is ALLOWED to have messages from her past boyfriends
4. Stop being insecure
5. Stop worrying
Infact I could probably list another 20 things...
Do yourself a favour it sounds like you going to loose this girl real quick, go read the bible.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Hmmm, how about just stop snooping on your girlfriend, you don't have the self confidence to handle what you find. Actually, if you had the self confidence, you wouldn't care.

 

[ShockDoctor]

yeh, I understand what you guys are sayin, but the person who is stored in her inbox used to be a kind of 'screw buddy' in the past - so they just met up for sex now an then, so I don't know what too think??

 

[Don_Joffe]

Are they still "****-buddies" if not, you safe.

 

[ShockDoctor]

she said they weren't screw buddies anymore and she doesn't even like him and wants nothing to do with him, she even doesn't want him to contact her, so why keep messages from him? I hope she's keeping the messages because he said something to get himself in sh1t or something and she wants the msgs as proof, I don't know, could be harmless, but it's very suspicious

 

[Don_Joffe]

Stop worrying. DOnt ask her about him or you will come across as insecure, just pretend he dont exist, cause if you are a juan, he dont exist. You OWN him.

 

[DeathDealer]

Shockdoctor probably has been on here, and he's just posting under a different name.

 

[ShockDoctor]

yeh i suppose I shouldn't worry about it, if it works out then great, if not, learn from it and evolve. although I might be keeping an 'eye' out for something to happen, lol

 

[AmgineEX]

Originally posted by Don_Joffe
I notice by your posts that its your first. I recommend reading through the sosuave website and then the bible and the other links that follow and your question will be answered because your question is of an major "AFC" level. To answer your question.
1. Dont confront her
2. She is ALLOWED to have her past boyfriends as friends
3. She is ALLOWED to have messages from her past boyfriends
4. Stop being insecure
5. Stop worrying
Infact I could probably list another 20 things...
Do yourself a favour it sounds like you going to loose this girl real quick, go read the bible.

Right on the money.

 

[tmpgstx]

I wouldn't discount what you found so fast.

These guys have banged her before, and you know that's indeed what they want, otherwise they wouldn't be contacting her at all. If she is giving them a green light for more, they' ll take advantage of both you and her behind your back.

It's similar to post i saw here earlier about how a guy found out later, she was sleeping with all four of her guy friends, and he had no clue. Don't let this happen to you.

There should be no reason why you shouldn't be included and knowing her friends also. If it is one way contact and that being her with them solely on her own, that doesn't bode will in my opinion.

 

[JazzPimpNYC]

If she told you she hates him and wants nothing to do with him, then tell her that there's no reason for him to be on her phone. If she refuses to take him off, threaten to leave her.

If she's cheating on you, dump that *itch.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Don_Joffe
I notice by your posts that its your first. I recommend reading through the sosuave website and then the bible and the other links that follow and your question will be answered because your question is of an major "AFC" level. To answer your question.
1. Dont confront her
2. She is ALLOWED to have her past boyfriends as friends
3. She is ALLOWED to have messages from her past boyfriends
4. Stop being insecure
5. Stop worrying
Infact I could probably list another 20 things...
Do yourself a favour it sounds like you going to loose this girl real quick, go read the bible.

Every response on this thread is bullshyt and is ill advisement, especially the above teenage poster!!!!

Your hor is is just that, a hor! She is getting pimped by others and is trying to be sly about t!!! It is great that you checked her phone and you have info that she doesn't know that you have!! Do not listen to the above posters - they are in extreme error and reflect the mindset of the current disorder of things!!!!!

Do not tall her what you know - Just beware of her conniving horish past and that you are no one special - YOU ARE JUST THE NEXT PIMP IN LINE!!! KNOW THIS AND ACT UPON THIS KNOWLEDGE!!!

 

[Dapper Swindler]

There isn't much you can do. If you keep bringing it up with her it makes you look as insecure as you actually are. Try to stress communication in your relationship but not suspicion. But no matter what people can always lie to you. Be prepared for that.

 

[AmgineEX]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Every response on this thread is bullshyt and is ill advisement, especially the above teenage poster!!!!

Your hor is is just that, a hor! She is getting pimped by others and is trying to be sly about t!!! It is great that you checked her phone and you have info that she doesn't know that you have!! Do not listen top the above posters - they are in extreme error and reflect the mindset of the current disorder of things!!!!!

Do not tall her what you know - Just beware of her conniving horish past and that you are no one special - YOU ARE JUST THE NEXT PIMP IN LINE!!! KNOW THIS AND ACT UPON THIS KNOWLEDGE!!!

I disagree. There's a different between being a DJ and being a ****. You can still treat women with respect and be a DJ at the same time, and the best DJs do just that. Often, people come to these boards as AFCs, then convert to being *******s, then after spending a long time as an *******, they realize that the best path is somewhere in the middle.

It's ok for her to have her past bf on her cell phone. Who cares? Their relationship might not have worked out but they can still remain friends. I am friends with my ex's, and you don't need to completely get someone out of your life as soon as you're not sleeping with them.

Use your own judgement as to whether she's cheating or not. If she has a history of cheating, then you're probably the next in line.

 

[JazzPimpNYC]

I'm sorry, but this is striking me as strange...

"she said they weren't screw buddies anymore and she doesn't even like him and wants nothing to do with him, she even doesn't want him to contact her

Yet, She still wants him on her phone????

That would make anyone cringe with suspicion. I wouldn't want MY girl to have any form of contact with this dude. No questions asked, the guy is getting deleted off her phone.

 

[Maximus_Decimus]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Every response on this thread is bullshyt and is ill advisement, especially the above teenage poster!!!!

Your hor is is just that, a hor! She is getting pimped by others and is trying to be sly about t!!! It is great that you checked her phone and you have info that she doesn't know that you have!! Do not listen to the above posters - they are in extreme error and reflect the mindset of the current disorder of things!!!!!

Do not tall her what you know - Just beware of her conniving horish past and that you are no one special - YOU ARE JUST THE NEXT PIMP IN LINE!!! KNOW THIS AND ACT UPON THIS KNOWLEDGE!!!

PRL is on the money. If they are in an exclusive relationship, that is really bad advice! For the clueless out there who don't realize what's going on, she's f*cked this guy before and she still has some form of emotional attachment to him AND/OR she really likes what the guy does when he's in the sack. Why keep the messages from him, otherwise? In the worst case scenario, she is still f*cking him behind ShockDoctor's back.

ShockDoctor, if you two aren't in an exclusive relationship, you should be dating other chicks right now. If you are in an exclusive relationship, that is a big red flag.

Mind you, forcing her to delete his phone number from her phone book doesn't prevent her from contacting him again. She can easily store his phone number in some location out of site (or memorize it) and continue to contact him.

Maximus_Decimus

 

[tmpgstx]

Yeah .. there is are Red Flags all over here. For the record PRL, - Jazz, and I were also in the above posts, but stated in favor of being aware and taking caution to her actions as to prevent a serious hurtbag situation.

There are Red Flags all over this, and this relationship will eventually crash so long as her friendly contacts with whom she's has sexual intimacy with each will no doubt come back to bite you square in the ass.

 

[ShockDoctor]

yeh, I'm in favor of that too - to be aware of her actions and keep quiet until I have some firm evidence.

I really want to confront her with it but I don't think that will do any good, as maximus_decimus said, she could always delete the msgs + number of her phone and store them elsewhere then contact him later.

what I am going to do is next time I'm with her check the phone again and see what the msgs are, thinking about it now, I did actually see another name on the phone - same name as ANOTHER ex BF - this is f*cked up sh1t.

if she is in a relationship with me there should be NO reason to store any message or even store the phone numbers of ex's she should want them out of her life for good, I bet SHE would feel suspicious if I had msgs and numbers of my ex's.

 

[Guerrero]

You need to take her phone and lay a giant sh*t on it! That'll teach her