What to do tonight - need help

[guywhoneedshelp]

I'll keep this short.

I was posting about a girl I visited in the city recently and I'm going back there today with my friend.

I saw her on AIM yesterday so I let her know I was gonna be in the city and she was saying

"Well I might be busy tomorrow"

and then eventually said "Well I wanna do homework tomorrow so I dunno"

I was like "It's Friday...you have all weekend." and she was like "Yea well I wanna get it all done before the weekend so I can enjoy it."

I told her I'd call her sometime tonight when I'm in the are with my friend and she was like "kk" so I dunno if she honestly has no interest or if she really is busy, or if she is trying to appear busy.

Throughout the AIM conversation I basically said "well I'm gonna be in the area, I figured I'd at least try and see you." and she seemed okay with it. Maybe she doesn't want to appear boring, just in case she really is sitting home on a Friday doing homework and doesn't want to sound lame by telling me that, and instead said "I might be busy."

However chances are she could be going to the club tonight, because that seems to be what she does every damn weekend. (but for all I know this girl could have no life 6 days out of the week if she's that devoted to school/ a girl who's main activities focus around the home/homebody)

This dumb b!tch.

Arite how should I play this? Me and my boy are gettin there around 6PM then we wanna have some time to chill before we call her up and meet up with her. Discuss...

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I see. We will be visited some places while we are there (me and my friend) and as there are many places, running into her will be rare. However, at one point in the night I'd like to give her a call, where she'll likely say "come over" and my friend and I will hang out with her and her roomate for a little bit.

I mean, I'm in the area. I haven't spoken to her in over a week. She showed a lot of interest last Thursday when I was there. It seems like she's "playing the game" by saying she is busy doing homework or whatever. I will call her from a place, so she does see that I'm out and not just going over there for her.

This way she does see me as the busy-social type like you said and will probably ask me to come over. What time should I call her?

Also come on, do you really think she's doing homework? She's probably gonna go out doing the same thing as me...

 

[true romance]

In my experience...chick would chose her homework over meeting you means she has IL...

If chicks want to see you and bang you..she will copie her homework from AFC and bang you all week-end...

Just plan you club scene and flirt with women....don't call her..she will be aksing why and she will initiate contact

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I think she just didn't want to appear boring and is nervous to hang out with me if nothing is going on. I posted about this girl last time and mentioned she was incredibly nervous. Always trying to entertain me. Always trying to qualify herself to me. She seems to be more interested in hanging out with me on a night she's going out with friends, so I can bring friends and join her.

Basically she's not doing anything, so she thinks she's appearing boring to me. I could be wrong, but I'm not so sure she's choosing homework over me, maybe she's playing hard to get, or I dunno. We'll find out tonight I guess...

What is IL?

 

[true romance]

Interest Low (IL)
Interest High (IH)

You know her better than us..

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

How bout this plan

Text her at like 9

"hey it's really loud here so i figured i'd text...what you up to?"

she responds "i'm at home blah blah blah"

"ok i'll stop by in like an hour"

discuss...

ps - i don't know her that well, just finding it hard to read the IOI's. met her at a party, then hung out with her once. this will be my third time ever seeing her.

 

[WC2]

Women cannot be "told" what to do. When a woman says she has plans or has things to do, she simply does not want to see you. Telling her that she'll have time or she isn't that busy will just lower her interest and ultimately place you into her friend's zone.

When you're going about ANYTHING with women you can't be needy. You don't NEED a date with her. You don't NEED to see her. Of course you would like to see her, but she knows a simple no from her will just entice you to move onto another girl. When women know this, they hesitate on making excuses.

You on the other hand offer your full hand like it's the sanctimony of marriage, already making times to see her and such. She's not biting, so stop pushing the issue. You already overplayed your card.

This is a true virtue of being a DJ; not needing them. Once you realize that, you'll get more pu$$y than you can keep up with.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

DONT revolve your evening on HER tonight. lets switch this around, if a guy said what she said, the girl would go out, have a great time, NOT text, PULL a guy, and have a boyfriend the next time you spoke to her

unless she really is tame and wants to do her homework on a friday night - do you want to be interested in that type of girl??

BET if you had 3 other girls, you WOULDNT be giving this girl a SECOND THOUGHT :yes:

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

As all of them said , go out and bang other womens .

Completely forget about her .

If she asks you why you didnt all her just say to her that you completely forgot to call her and tell her how you enjoyed the weekend .

If she said to me that , i would respond with " Haaha , dork . Enjoy your books " and even if she would call me afterwards i wouldnt give her signs of interest . Just as Espi said .

There are a lot of women on club waiting to be approached .

When you get there , just dont forget to

SMILE
DANCE
APPROACH , APPROACH , APPROACH
SHOW CONFIDENT BODY LANGUAGE
HAVE LOUD VOICE