What to do on first dates?

[SoonToBeDJ]

I have read lots of tips on this site and lots of them say no to a movie on the first date. Why? Because you have no time to get to know them right? Ok so I know that.

A recommended first date is like going to a coffee shop. A coffee shop seems ok but exactly how many girls my age (I am 17) will be thrilled when they go home and think about how good of a time they had at a coffee shop. Yeah, a good conversation with a guy she just met is cool but wouldn't it be easier for a guy to take a girl out, have a good time conversing while doing something fun? Exactly what is a fun first date then? I am getting a little out of topic here but I live in Chicago and in the winter it is hard to find **** to do on the first date.

Besides the point I just made, what is a fun first date for people my age without having to spend a lot of money? You can't give the girl the world the first date or else she will be with you for the money so what do you do on the first date that's fun and cheap is what I am asking. I work 2 jobs and go to school. The reason for 2 jobs is because I have a job that's only for weekdays and another for weekends because my weekday job isn't open on weekends. So if anyone has any answer to my question please reply. Again, what is a fun and cheap first date for a 17 year old?

 

[Vincent]

Well your not looking at the big picture.

I don't know if you completely understnad te reasoning behind not going to a movie.

The purpose of the first date is to get to know the other person, not just for fun. You need to converse with them as much as possible.

It really depends on who you are, and what you like. Don't go on a date where you'll be bored, find something intresting.

Some things i could suggest offhand. Museum, park, window shopping, etc.

Its really hard to say cause we don't know what your interests are.

 

[Bjon]

I'd wouldn't totally throw out the whole movie idea. Movies can be great, but just make sure that you make time before and after to talk. Like here, we have a theater at the mall. So what i always do is show up there a couple hours before the movie starts so you can buy your tickets and then walk around and talk untill the movie starts. After the movie you can go find something else to do that doesn't require much of anything and you can continue talking.

Another great idea is the park. There are endless possiblities of things to do there. From playing basketball to playing on the playground to just sitting in the grass and talking. So whatever you want to do, just keep it simple and fun and thing will usually turn out great.

 

[Jerky Boi]

My town's very small so I don't have much selection on where I go on a first date. Most people go to the movies but I really can't stand it. Mall's also a good option. You get to walk around, talk, and it's really easy to start a convo. But yea, movies are terrible first dates..

 

[GlutusMaximus86]

Maybe bowling. Although a lot of the time they can be overly crowded or are having a league night. I might have a first date this weekend (will find out tommorrow) she lives about 30-45 min from here so I gotta think of something good for the date

 

[McHenry]

Pool, Skating, window shopping.
Whatever you do dont do cinema.

Also it doesn't matter that much where you take her, if she really fancies you then she wouldn't give two ****s where you go. So if you pick something remotely fun and she's quite interested then she'll love it.

Something you should pay more attention to is how you'll behave on the first date, not where it should take place.

 

[JSH]

Preferably somewhere new, maybe you dont even need a proper date, just get used to doing things with her (not like your desperate). Like when you and your mates go skating, get her to come along and play around with her, show her how to do simple things. Or go out with her and her friends, if you and this girl have not already kissed, then a first date somewhere new is probably good, but not a new activity. OTherwise just hang.