"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DannyM

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Hey guys, I was messaging some chick on the net and things seemed to be going smooth we exchanged numbers and texted back and forth abit and said we'd meet on saturday! I then sent her a text the other day and she didn't reply so I sent her this text:-

"I am planning my weekend so can you let me know if you are ok for saturday or not"

2 days later I still have no reply...so last night i text again saying.

"Ok your loss, see ya"

About 10 seconds later she text with

"What???"

Ten minutes after that she text with

"I dont understand whats up"

And now I wake up this morning to a text with her saying

"Are you really this childish, I dont understand why you txt me saying your loss, see ya. The last time we txt u said you'd ring the day before to arrange plans."

I never said this???? What should I do in this situation? arrange to meet or just leave it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LoneWolf

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oh boy.. i hate girls who play games like that man. she's obviously fuking around with you. she read your text messages but chose to ignore it. i wouldn't waste my time with that crap. she only replied because you said see ya and she wanted to be the winner in the game :p
 

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text back and say...all my offers have an expiory date...you have to be ruthless in this game,bye now
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Just re-schedule it back on Saturday, She obviously wants to go out with you on Saturday. Whats the problem?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dementia

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dhv story about what u did today... get off this topic of who did what rah rah... its boring and dlv.. In future be more specific with dates.. set that **** up.. Ignoring ur text wasnt so bad since it was so vague.. a better text to send her would be

"im going <here> on saturday because rah rah rah.. its at <thsi time> wanna tag along?"

If she ignores it.. fine.. shes ignored a specific date that u, as a man, have set up. Then ur follow up, if u feel the need to can be "You missed out there, I ended up going with 3 girls and another guy i know from <blah blah>... some funny dhv story"...

I just thought from first impression your text came off as a bit more butt-hurt than alpha
 

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She's testing your metal. Don't get p!ssed off with her, otherwise she'll think less of you.

And your first text was a bit vague...

Just reply with "Sweet, cya Saturday at (insert time/place) ;)"

Never EVER react in a negative way to a negative vibe from women.

Turn that sh!t around and act like nothing effects you.
 

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Word to the wise eliminate the following:

"I am planning my weekend so can you let me know if you are ok for saturday or not"
You're basically saying to the girl your my #1 option and if you aren't interested then I'll do something else."

It makes you look desperate whether you are or not. As mentioned above by dementia tell her where you'll be and make an indirect suggestion that she can be there or not. It demonstrates that you knowing what you are doing and that her presence does not affect your ability to have a good time. Then you go to such and such a spot and if she shows up you know she's interested if she doesn't you know she's not and out take advantage of being out and having a good time and chatting up other ladies.
 

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Cherokee said:
She's testing your metal. Don't get p!ssed off with her, otherwise she'll think less of you.

And your first text was a bit vague...

Just reply with "Sweet, cya Saturday at (insert time/place) ;)"

Never EVER react in a negative way to a negative vibe from women.

Turn that sh!t around and act like nothing effects you.
I totally disagree. Men who act this what get walked over by women, they get no respect. If a girl ignores you deliberately, cut her off completely.

OP, don't reply to this girl. Erase her number. She's playing games with you and wanna come out on top. The way you ended it made her feel less important so she's trying to get you to be interested in her again. If you fall for it, she will end things her own way very soon.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just deleted her number..Can't be bothered with her ****!
 

Cherokee

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I totally disagree. Men who act this what get walked over by women, they get no respect. If a girl ignores you deliberately, cut her off completely.
I should have validated my point. It was to prompt a reaction from her, something that stirred her emotions. Whether or not OP turned up on saturday it's up to him. Standing her up would have taught that b!tch a lesson.

However, he's deleted her number, so whatever.

Good luck with the next one.
 

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I think Cherokee has a point as does DannyM. It's a balance. Some things need to be cut off, ended. Other minor things, I agree you need to just be cool. Live outside her drama bubble. Don't follow her emotionally up and down. Be cool, be chill. It's far more attractive and strong than starting a pissy fight. Plus it says you won't play, so she better not try that shyte.
 
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