What to do next?

[camh96]

So there is this girl i (really) like (we will refer to her as "Lisa" (not her actual name) for the message) in school. I am in my final year, and so is she. We have known each other for about 4 months, when she moved here from a school across town. She is a very outgoing and popular girl.

I'm her go-to guy for x subject we both take, which means whenever she is stuck on an assessment or something like that, we go to the computer labs and I go over it with her. One time she even asked me to stay an hour after school on a Friday and help her, even though I'm not the smartest or best looking guy in class. She even baked some food to say thanks. Sometimes when even share food in class.

(While I'm writing this, I realize if she sees it, she will know exactly who it is.)

However we dont do anything outside of school, and conversations never go below the surface (how was your weekend, how is x subject going, etc.)

Where do you think i stand? Do I have a chance? What should I do next?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Does she display any expressions of interest, other than friendly stuff that you describe?

-Extended eye contact
-Close physical proximity/touching?
-Does she dress sexy for you?

 

[camh96]

Extended eye contact - Define that please? Under what circumstances?

Proximity and touching - we sit next to each other in class, but not really any "touching" apart from the occasional hi-5

Does she dress "sexy" - she dresses nice probably just because she is popular

--Please note i am socially awkward, so touching is kind of out of my comfort zone--

 

[asa_don]

sounds like she only wants you as the "go to guy" to help her get good grades in the class. the only way you will actually know is if you ask her to hang out. after your study time ask her if she wants to hang out. if you get excuses or see a weird look on her face after you ask, then you will know she isn't into you for sure.

 

[camh96]

sounds like she only wants you as the "go to guy" to help her get good grades in the class. the only way you will actually know is if you ask her to hang out. after your study time ask her if she wants to hang out. if you get excuses or see a weird look on her face after you ask, then you will know she isn't into you for sure.

You really think so?

If she wanted good grades, I'm not the best guy to ask to stay and help study, there are smarter and more attractive (no homo) guys that she could ask,

secondly;

These "study" sessions aren't really packed with study, what really happen is we open the appropriate software, then spend most of our time talking and messing around online i.e facebook.

 

[asa_don]

However we dont do anything outside of school, and conversations never go below the surface (how was your weekend, how is x subject going, etc.)

you said this, so from this it doesn't sound like she has much interest other than school work. when i was in study groups girls would talk with me about other stuff and would hit me up outside of class, they were interested instead of just school related work.

These "study" sessions aren't really packed with study, what really happen is we open the appropriate software, then spend most of our time talking and messing around online i.e facebook.

the point is that you need to see if she wants to hang out with you besides a school setting, ask her out, go get a pizza or something after you study, see her reaction when you ask her out. girls that like you will ask you to hang out. ask her and see what hapens.

Does she dress sexy for you?

they are in a computer lab at school

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Please post this in the Highschool Forum:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=16
Thanks

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Tings to look out for:

Eye contact: if she holds eye contact for more than 3-5 seconds without saying anything, that's what you call gazing, opposed to just normal eye contact between friends.

Oh and don't stare of gawp at her. Practice the smouldering, I'll-take-you-to bed look in the mirror if you have to :yes:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16992

Touching/Proximity: a hi-5 is not a display of sexual attraction.

Look for her leaning in to you, touches on the arm or back, arm on you shoulder, extended hugging. Does she flash her cleavage/play with her hair while you talk?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16752

Try a few of these yourself, firstly to gauge and possibly increase her interest and secondly to get over the social awkwardness of touching other people. It's quite natural and the more you do it the more comfortable you become. Just don't touch her sex parts just yet

Dressing sexy: start noticing what she's wearing when you're not due to see each other, and then gauge that against what she wears when she knows she'll see you.

Dressing sexy means showing flesh and or figure-hugging outfits which will accentuate her assets.

These "study" sessions aren't really packed with study, what really happen is we open the appropriate software, then spend most of our time talking and messing around online i.e facebook.

This sounds a bit like a gay best friend scenario.

Grow a pair and take her on a proper date (not the cinema, for crying out loud!). She'll respect you for manning-up and escalating to the next level. But don't be surprised if she sees you just as a friend, because that's what you sound like at the moment.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

PS. with respect, you sound young and in need of a bit of reading about women.

Here's some to get you started: http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195515

All the best.