What to do next...

[bitteorca]

Went out last night. This absolutely gorgeous girl was all over me, all night. Got her number. Text her today, she didn't text back. So I ring her (I think more to see whether I got the right number (iphone + drunkness = mistakes!)). I didn't ask but she said she doesn't have any phone credit and was going to get some soon (ok fair enough!). I then asked her whether she'd like to do something in the week. She said yes. I then said that I was free on ____ day and asked her whether she would be. She said 'I might be' and didn't really give me any more than that.

She playing hard to get or what? She gives me mixed signals. She said she would like to do something (good), but when I said I'm free on ___ day she gave me a maybe (bad). Is there a possibility of her getting p*ssed with my one day availability?! Also, she was all over me all night, she must like me (good), gave me her phone number (good) etc.

I know a lot of you are going to say calling and texting her a day after is bad, which I probably agree. Should of just left it with the text. But, Captain Hindsight won't save anyone, so looking for pointers on what to do from here on in. Just leave it with her? I did leave it open. After she said that I said well get some credit and text me if you want to go out sometime. Or should I give her a call mid-week if I haven't heard from her, and then leave it at that?!

Personally think that maybe I should wait for her to contact me, as I might have looked a bit desperate calling and texting a day after, so not contacting her might regain that a bit.

I recently broke up and obviously it blows on your confidence with the rejection element, so even if this doesn't materialise, I need to think of it as a win regardless. Like an ego boost. She was really good looking, perfect figure, etc. epic win

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

A random girl being all over you during a night out doesn't always guarantee she'll be down for dating. It's not always that simple.

You can try again, sure. But don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't work out. I get numbers all the time from girls who show high interest and then fade away. It's part of the lifestyle.

 

[bitteorca]

Yeah I suppose that's one way of looking at it. She is very attractive and single, so maybe she just likes it that way. But she did say she was up for going out sometime, so I may as well try right?

And like I said in the original post, I've got to see it as a win regardless. I was getting off with her all night, something I thought would never happen seeing as how stunning she was! Good boost to the ol'confidence

 

[PectoralisMajor]

work on some OTHER girls as well as this one.

Suggest not contact for about 4 days and then give her a quick call. NO, I repeat NO text. If she doesnt answer her phone, leave a short voicemail;

hi xxx its bitte, I was giving you a quick call to see if you got your phone credit. I'm on my way to <insert whatever here> so ive got to run, but maybe you can get back to me when you have a spare minute.

job done. if she gets back to you by phone = high interest.
text medium intersted if within an hour, low otherwise.

if shes hot and single, thats a yellow / red flag in itself so beware!

 

[ARrocket]

I like your attitude, bitteorca. Unfortunately, your game isn't quite as good

You text. She doesn't answer. So you call. Not what I would have done, but fine. You ask her if she wanted to do something. Bad. Doesn't make her panties wet. Of course she says yes; she doesn't want to deal with the confrontation of saying no. Which is why you got the 'maybe' when you tried to pick a specific day.

Instead, next time try making a specific plan for a specific day (not too far in advance...next day or within 2 at the max). Be less vague, and you'll waste less of your time, because you'll know right away whether she's into you or not. Give two or three chances, and then leave it. And of course, keep meeting them!

 

[bitteorca]

I like your attitude, bitteorca. Unfortunately, your game isn't quite as good

You text. She doesn't answer. So you call. Not what I would have done, but fine. You ask her if she wanted to do something. Bad. Doesn't make her panties wet. Of course she says yes; she doesn't want to deal with the confrontation of saying no. Which is why you got the 'maybe' when you tried to pick a specific day.

Instead, next time try making a specific plan for a specific day (not too far in advance...next day or within 2 at the max). Be less vague, and you'll waste less of your time, because you'll know right away whether she's into you or not. Give two or three chances, and then leave it. And of course, keep meeting them!

You think I f*cked up that bad?! Salvageable?

I think I'll give her a call in a few days and try again. If I get a bail or another response like that then I'll just call it quits and forget about her.

Also doesn't help that there is this other girl I got a number off on NYE, but didn't get off with her or anything. She was another ridiculously good looking specimen, and I text her and it was going great, and we made plans for a day but then she just doesn't text back. I gave it a few days and then sent her a text just trying to confirm for this specific day, but no text back, so obviously that one's out the window now. Just seems like I was going to have 2 X dates with 2 X awesomely good looking girls, and its gone to 0 X dates with 0 X awesomely good looking girls, in the blink of an eye.

Of course....they might text me back at some point. This only happened today, who knows...

Just important to keep a positive mindset about it, because I don't take rejection well at all. These 2 X good lookers were obviously interested (the girl from the original post obviously more so on account of her tongue being in my mouth all last night) so I should take that as a real big positive that I can attract these calibre of females! hooraaahh

 

[bitteorca]

Just thought I'd update this thread as and when things happen....


She added me on facebook...


I think if she doesn't contact me in a few days i'll give her a call. She still hasn't got any phone currency (facebook snooping!)

That is all!

 

[European-DJ]

A random girl being all over you during a night out doesn't always guarantee she'll be down for dating. It's not always that simple.

You can try again, sure. But don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't work out. I get numbers all the time from girls who show high interest and then fade away. It's part of the lifestyle.

I hate this part, i am only getting day 2's with 25% of the girls i Number + Kiss close, in clubs/bars .. I hate it..

 

[bitteorca]

She added me on facebook, and also tagged me in a few photos of us together on that night out, and liked and commented etc.

Think I'll send her a faceybee message maybe tomorrow about meeting up