"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So here is my predicament.
I've been into psychology for a while and have stumbled on the internet sanction of seduction.
Anyway, I have a reputation at my school to mess around with a lot of girls. They all say I'm cute, some say I'm an ass, but I'm definetly not a jerk.

About 4 months ago I fell for this girl. She has tons in common with me, she's funny, sexy, and freaky when it gets to sexy time. This girl is totally my style, but didn't really notice until about 5 months ago. I've been in some of her other classes before, but totally didn't spend enough time with her, if any as I was chasing other girls. I feel like my realization has come at the WORST possible time.
My friend who is also a smooth character and has had TONS of luck with my girl. She laughs at all his jokes, searches him out in a crowd and is always smiling. This relationship (him and her) has only started since the new year. I got so close to making something happen at her Christmas house party, but it just wasn't right, this being my excellent judgment.

Anyway, just recently, as of coming back from this break, I have had NO luck with her. **** has been turning upside down! It got so bad the first week of me trying to talk to her and then she would leave and go hunt out my friend, I felt sick and was definetly NOT myself. I couldn't get a break from these horrible feelings she triggered in me. But SOMEHOW I'm still attracted to her, if not more then three monthes ago. She won't talk to me more then a "yeah, thats cool" on msn and at school I work my ass off to see her and make her laugh, but nothing seems to get our relationship to turn around. She also has another guy who she love/hates at another school but I'm confident he can be surpassed.
I know I'm putting her on a pedestal, but I can't seem to shake it!
I'm workin' at getting over these horrible feelings I get, and have become more relaxed in the one class, theatre, we have together. She is super beautiful but for some reason isn't a "guy magnet".

Any and all advice will be taken in stride.
I guess I'm lookin' for a way to reset my status in her book and start from the beginning. Get all these negative feelings out, and be able to get into some sort of positive relationship with her. More then Friends.
I have a bunch of friends with benefits, but haven't gotten with any of them since this **** has grappled me down. I try to flirt with girls, but I just don't get the same high off of it as I used to.

What Do I Do Guys?!

-Feelin' not so .smooth.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Figure out what your friend is doing that is attracting her, then do it better. She could just be testing you to see if her being with other guys effects you (which is obviously has) so just play cool and keep hooking up with other girls.

If your rep at school is that you "mess around with other girls a lot" then you could totally pull this elusive girl if you drop the "you're the only girl I'd get in a relationship with where there weren't other people involved" bomb on her if you raise your status a little in her eyes. Mind you, don't say it if you don't mean it... but really, with a rep like that, any girl who is attracted toward you would probably fall for that.
 

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Ok, so pay way less attention and hang out with other girls.
You guys think it will inspire more in Her relationship with my friend? I see that as a definite possibility. I would love to not care, as this totally doesn't feel like me, but I fear I would get crazy jealous. I'm worried it will kill her attraction for me, if there is anything left.

Thanks for the super quick responses!
Supremo, Ill keep the "you're the only girl I'd get in a relationship with where other people weren't involved" line, sounds really good!

Luke, I suspect your right, I can feel myself becoming a total ***** around her, then I try to counter it by busting her balls and she'll get mad at me, sometimes actually mad, though I'm sure it's based on outer circumstances as I'll only bust on really small things.

Gary, your probably right though as I previously stated I'm worried about her relationship with my friend, and it becoming the dominant.
 

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You gotta be the better catch than the other guys. Like Luke said; you are probably trying too hard now. You basicly put an image in your mind that she is the one. Or else, why would you be trying to get her. Maybe, you jealous that she likes your friend... The best thing to do is start gaming other women. By doing this you are showing less attention to her which, she will wonder why. And you will get her out of your mind by chasing other women.

Somethings are easier said than done but, trust me here. I've had girls do the same sh!t to me. So, I just brush it off and go about my business. I only fvck with people who fvck with me. You know what I'm saying? If she likes you she will come back wanting to hang out with you. If not, oh well you got new girls wanting you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
The best thing to do is start gaming other women. By doing this you are showing less attention to her which, she will wonder why. And you will get her out of your mind by chasing other women.

If not, oh well you got new girls wanting you.
I can vouch for this.
 

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K so anyway...

Check it out guys!!!

Today, I spent my frist class getting my head cleared, listened to music, flirted with the girl who sits next to me, and got "centered".
I Let Go Of All Feelings for this girl. Good and Bad.
Next class I have with "her" so I closed my eyes, let go of all my bad vibes, started feeling good, and went to class.

I had the best class of my life.

I had fun and enjoyed the class and best of all
She seemed almost taken aback by it. I was acting calm and chill, she was flirting with my friend, and I just hung out with other people, didn't really notice, she walked by, we made eye contact, I smiled in the most chill one i could muster, and continued with my story to the other kids.
Later she made a total attempt at talking with me, I was telling another story, and she came up and started commenting on it, and I just brushed it off like it was nothin, then I saw her in the hallway later, and she waved, I waved back, winked and left.

All in all an excellent day.
Thanks to your guys advice of course :p
 

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Keep up the positive mindset.
 

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Attaboy.
True Don Juan in the making.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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