"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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RugbyDude

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heres the situation: i was at this party on saturday night and i got to talkin with this real cute chick near the end. i had no time to do anything else other than ask her her number and then i had to leave :( its monday now and i havent attempted to make contact with her. what should i do? ask her out on a date or something or just call to say hi? shes also a freshman in college and im a senior in high school. thanks guys
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Go for it.

I'm a senior too and I'm pulling a college freshmen too. [she's REALLY cute BTW haha]

Dont "ask her out on a date" though.

Call her up, tell her you're going somewhere and that she should come along with you.
[actually have something to do though...as for me, I told her I was going to see my friends band play and that she should come along with me...got there, I know lots of people in the hardcore music scene around here so social proof was pretty easy and then it just went uphill from there.]
 

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What's wrong with asking her out on a date?

Call her tomorrow or wednesday and ask her out on a date for friday or saturday night. If you wait much longer you won't be very fresh in her mind. That, and if you wait too long she'll think you're some sort of chump who doesn't have the balls to call. Or you're "just not that into her."

Don't be afraid of the word "date." You meet a girl and get her number, a date is the next step. If she's just hanging around you one night and you haven't made it clear that you're on the first date she might be kind of confused about what's going on, whereas if you go ahead and throw the word "date" out there, she understands what's going on. You don't necessarily HAVE to call it a date, but it doesn't hurt. It makes your intentions clear. (this isn't a hard and fast rule, it's just something I find to be a good idea)

Anyhow, the first time you go out alone with a girl you haven't been LJFBed by, she pretty much assumes it's a date. Roll with it.
 

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well i called her up and shes goin out of town friday and asked me to call her saturday to check if shes back, she definitely seemed interested tho :) hey and if she isnt interested and im just being led on, hers was not the only phone number i got last saturday ;)
 

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The Forms said:
What's wrong with asking her out on a date?

Call her tomorrow or wednesday and ask her out on a date for friday or saturday night. If you wait much longer you won't be very fresh in her mind. That, and if you wait too long she'll think you're some sort of chump who doesn't have the balls to call. Or you're "just not that into her."

Don't be afraid of the word "date." You meet a girl and get her number, a date is the next step. If she's just hanging around you one night and you haven't made it clear that you're on the first date she might be kind of confused about what's going on, whereas if you go ahead and throw the word "date" out there, she understands what's going on. You don't necessarily HAVE to call it a date, but it doesn't hurt. It makes your intentions clear. (this isn't a hard and fast rule, it's just something I find to be a good idea)

Anyhow, the first time you go out alone with a girl you haven't been LJFBed by, she pretty much assumes it's a date. Roll with it.
That's the reason why I said he shouldnt ask her out on a "date".
Like you said, if she does infact go out with him alone she's already assuming it's a date, so I usually don't call up girls and tell them "hey, lets go on a date!" or something like that.


And to the OP, good job dude. Keep those options open.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OK ...
now try to make friendship and if you become friend then there is no need to go any where for dating. i really hate dating and i love friends and true friendship.
 
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